My Cognitive Behavioral Therapy // Week 6 // Working Through Emotional Pain
One of the points my counselor friend reminded me of when she gave me this CBT packet was that life is always going to be hard. We are always going to have challenges.
My goal is to learn how to deal with these challenges in a healthy way so that I’m not in a constant state of emotional pain.
Another reason this was a good reminder for me is because I tend to focus on self improvement when I happen to be feeling good and I let it slide when life gets hard.
But when things get difficult that’s exactly when I need it the most.
I’ve been making these posts to hold myself accountable for doing the work and I just realized that I skipped over making a post for week 5 which is a prime example of letting things slide and allowing myself to get too overwhelmed.
I’ve been having a very difficult time because my eldest cat has been sick and it looks like his only option now is to have surgery.
I also found out last week that a dear friend received a very severe cancer diagnosis.
So, I’ve just been in a constant state of worry and sadness. I was talking to my friend @tremendospercy and he reminded me that worrying accomplishes absolutely nothing.
It’s a great reminder to have and it helped to hear it when I was swirling in the vortex of self-created despair.
I’ve since been dealing with the worrying part ok, but the sadness is harder to cope with.
Seeing someone that you love in pain and not being able to alleviate that pain is a hard feeling to deal with.
I’m so disappointed in myself for basically spending the entire weekend in such a low vibrational state and falling back on the old patterns of black and white thinking and catastrophizing.
I guess you could say I fell off the wagon.
This week I’m going to re-assess the SMART goals that I made.
One of the things I tend to do is design unrealistic goals and then feel bad about myself when I can’t accomplish all of them.
After I create smarter goals, I’m going to enter them into my phone so they are easier to follow.
I still don’t know what to do about this feeling of sadness that is weighing on my chest, but I’m going to try my best to not let my thoughts send me into a whirlwind of negativity and despair.
Constantly trying...to remain in the state of "Being Happy"...whatever you do...finding solace...keeping peace with one's innerself..."alleviates pain" and keeps ...mind, body and soul...calm, peaceful...and truly serene (close your eyes!!! talk to your innerself...interact, engage and resolve!!!) :)
Excellent advice, thank you.
To your post, i just want to say sorry that you are going through what you're going through. I can understand you on this issue 100%. I can say that you have the right idea about bettering yourself. I don't know you but I can tell that you definitely have the potential in you. Your effort and a never give up mindset is your best friend in these situations. And just keeping up with your posts, reading and commenting will just remind you of the support of your followers and people who genuinely care, too. This is my first day on this site and I have already encountered wonderful people here. And besides therapy, you have friends, family, and others here willing to listen and elevate you. It's nice to hear someone else is out there like me and Is getting better, its always nice knowing you're not alone in these situations.
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Sadness is probably one of my most difficult feelings to deal with because I don't know what to do with it. I guess the thing is to not let it pull you into despair. Probably easier said than done, but I've had a lot of practice with that.
I know, it's frustrating and difficult.
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Thank you! <3
Woooooow nice friend...........
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Sending love your way. Sometimes the best way to deal with sadness is to accept it, and just continue to do your best.
Thanks Sun, I'm trying. <3
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Of course you are going to be in pain at times like these. Just remember they are not you. Realising the spiral you are in is a huge step. Consciously trying to work on it even more so. It's a brave thing to do, to write about it like this and I think a lot of people in a similar situation can benefit from reading this. Hug
Thank you. hugs <3
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