I have that belief that accepting the lot in life or past unpleasant circumstances helps one move forward in life. If one is to ignore them and think there's a way to escape it by just ignoring it and focusing on the positives, it always have a way of coming back to haunt one.
There's is this saying in Africa, "Those who do not know where the rain starts beating them are very likely not to know when it stops raining." Even though seeing a psychologist is something that is rare in this part of the clime, I always feel as if I'm having a session whenever I read your post. I guess it's majorly because of your style of writing which is almost devoid of all those jargons that makes most not understand what goes on in this amazing study of people.
Thanks very much for doing this.
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Dearest @greenrun
I feel truly humbled by your words! Thank you so much :)
Also, let me just say that I love the African saying you shared here with us. I do agree with it. That also makes me think about what you said about accepting one's lot in life. I think it is also important to keep in mind that this is a notion valid for both the difficult and the good experiences :) sometimes I feel that specially being present and aware of the good moments of life would help us not become so upset by the difficult ones. Particularly those which leave us with no option other than acceptance.
I see so many people spending so many years grieving the loss of a loved one; which makes them almost forget the presence of the ones who are still around. I see so many people entrapped by the walls of not accepting a divorce and spending many years stuck in that frame of mind.
Yes, we must have the understanding of when we should fight for change, as long as we also have the humility to see that not all situations in life can be changed! And here I came back to how you started your comment, but adding a little observation of mine: there is something smart about 'accepting one's lot in life'!
Lots of love to you my dear :)
I think like when we experience a loss; it is always good to acknowledge it. Living in denial without accepting it is now where the problems are.
This is a quote from the movie series Revenge. I think it's apt in a lot of situation in real life. Once we could accept the situation, moving on becomes somewhat easier. But not accepting it is and trying to move on is just a temporary fix and won't last like a house built on a shaky foundation. Thanks one more time.