Yes, mental illnesses are far from comparable to physical illnesses.

From the outside, someone with the diagnosis you describe looks as if he wants to draw attention to himself permanently. Which is true in principle, but as I understand you, it is primarily about the Self wanting to draw attention to the Self before it thinks of others - with the intention not to lose oneself but to remain in living contact with oneself.

How strong this drawing of attention must be in order to be able to feel oneself at all, is always determined by the person it concerns. The outsiders can therefore only ever judge this "wrongly", since they can be found neither in the mind nor in the body of the affected person. Uncertainty with the form of expression of the individual is therefore understandable. The unguided responses like those you mentioned are not only an expression of indifference or insecurity, they are partly justified.

... people of today are simply all "totally soft and others are much worse off".

It seems that you refer this statement to yourself (although perhaps no one personally addressed it to you in connection with your diagnosis?): what happens except that it annoys you? Could it be that you yourself think that you are too "soft" and view this softness rather contemptuously? At least I mean to perceive this with the intention to steel your body and make it "hard". Just as you occasionally add aggressive elements to your linguistic expression so as not to create the impression that you are an easy target. It irritates me, not only with you but also with other people. It says: "Be careful! No matter what you say, it could give you a fiery reaction."

I also think that there is always a danger to identify too much with the disease itself. Because a diagnosis offers protection as well as a surface of attack. I experience this in my counselling: The young people I work with often do not want to leave the shelter of diagnosis and therapy because they have advantages (which have legitimacy). At the same time, however, they want to be seen with all their might as healthy and as someone who does not take any medication and is ill. Since neither is possible at the same time, there is a conflict here. This sometimes leads to people keeping their diagnosis and treatment secret, but expecting others to be treated according to their diagnosis without the people involved even knowing about it.

There is a space of tension between secrecy and revelation and it is not easy to manoeuvre in it. For example, how much and what do you say to others to make them support you but don't feel sorry for you? How much do you use your status as a reason for this or that misconduct? My experience with young people who have been diagnosed since childhood and who have been married to it for ten years or more, so to speak, is that they have built up a strong identification and it is difficult to imagine a perspective and a life without it. It is then as if one had to let go of the good friend "illness".

So, in a systemic setting I could ask the question (after considering if that can be done and knowing the client):

"For how long up from now do you want to keep your diagnose?"

I allow myself to say all this because I have experienced the depth and intensity of mental illness myself.

I'm not sure if my interpretations are welcome and so I would think it's brave of you to tell personal stories and get feedback, which you didn't necessarily have in mind as such.

All suggestions you gave do make absolute sense in order to keep up and to stay stable and turn towards a healthy life.