I'm totally on board with you on this article. I came the same conclusion, but from a different perspective. I read For Your Own Good about 20 years ago. I think from that point on, I reached the conclusion that there is no good and evil. There are those people who are confused (evil), and less confused (those who we might describe as good).

By chance, I came upon the work of Dr. Ross W. Greene (whom I've written about extensively in my blogs). Dr. Greene has worked with kids for more than 38 years and sums up their behavior as follows: "Kids would do better if they could.

That is to say, that kids exhibit challenging behavior when frustrated by the problems they encounter as they grow up. They "have difficulty" with reading, doing homework, doing the chores around the house, or just being nice to other people. It's not a lack of motivation, it's a lack of skills.

Teach kids the skills they need to solve those problems, and the challenging behavior goes away. We teach those skills to kids by collaborating with them to solve those problems as they come up. It's a partnership.

Dr. Greene wrote two books that totally changed my outlook on people:

The Explosive Child
Raising Human Beings

Both of those books have evolved my thinking from identifying the problem as Miller did, to solving the problem. I appreciate reading your article because now I see that more and more people are coming around to this way of thinking.

Thanks.