so the main point is ... if you feel like you are becoming the mirror of the other person and lose yourself and dont act like you re normal strong self ..than it is a projection of the narcissist in front of you ... you feel weak, emotional and sucked and guilty...it makes so much sens . .. so apart from the ego , very important ..because narcissist play on your ego a lot in a nice way then in a mean way .. so the stronger and real you feel the higher vibration is the person in front of you and vice versa , sending you this vibes .. and the worst you feel the lower the vibration ... we must always feel strong with ourself and others , otherwise there is imbalance ... sometimes the energies dont match , that is when nothing is happening or conflictual basic energies and sometimes the energies get pulled like in a tsunami but not a nice one , one that we are used to , like a jail but doesnt make us feel good .... ok well understood now ...the subconscious can be so tricky ..Again Thank you .