I live in a country with over 2 million refugees and lots of them are fighting age men, though we had time to be irritated about that fact.

But the war is about trust between soldiers and those person who are not ready or are not able to kill other people can be understood and can not be pushed to war. Two years after russian intervention and we have a contract army totally financed by our poor budget.

If it goes about syrians I understand that they suffer for us as well (for russians to be able to show their tanks and planes killing people - unfortunately russian authorities really think that's what is needed to be popular among their people). We have many syrian refugees as well but I know how they are treated in my country and I know that you hardly find any other more tolerate people than my nation.

And if it goes about people who are running from war it's totally understood that civil people should come out from bombs. That's what we are doing in Ukraine - the most hot spots were not living areas, the most prolonged fighting was over an airport (half a year we managed to drag terrorists to that spot).
It's easy to talk about war and what people should do when it's far away, but it's totally different when it's going on in your country.