I have smashed his phone in a fit of rage.
He should work to get himself another phone. That is certainly not coming out of my pocket.
By all means, you need to follow your own conscience and follow the principles you affirm to be true and trustworthy.
With that said, if I were to damage the property of one of my kids as a result of my own anger about their misdeeds, I would be forced to hold myself responsible for their loss.
I am lenient with my kids when they break something by accident. I extend no leniency when they break something because they allowed their anger to get the best of them. If I hold them to that standard, I need to hold myself to the same standard.
Please don't misconstrue any of this as me saying what you should do. This is me, lamenting with you and recognizing how challenging relationships with loved ones can be.
I sincerely wish you and your brother the best. I hope that, somehow, your relationship with each other can grow stronger as a result of this, rather than the other way around.
I let my anger get the best of me, that I admit. As for my relationship with my brother, nothing has changed. I have forgiven him. However, he has to work to regain his reputation--whenever he is able to come online, and I won't be helping him with that. If he doesn't see hive as an opportunity to better his life and gain valuable relationships, then maybe he should find his path, I have done my bit as his elder brother. I take responsibility for pushing him to do better. Maybe he needs time to figure things himself. He is a good lad but his actions have consequences. Hivewatcher can do as they see fit.
I do wish you both the best.
I hope each of you finds that unique confluence where your skills and passions overlap with opportunities to joyfully and delightfully meet the needs of others.
As I try to teach my students, capitalism at its core involves finding unique ways to serve others, and to do that better than anyone else.