I am already in mid-fifties and so I am very much aware that I am in the second half of my life. I intend to make the second half of my life better than my first half. Regardless of whether you are in your first or second half of your life, these fundamental truths can help to lead a happier and more fulfilled live.
1. Let Go Off The Regrets of Yesterday, Embrace The Uncertainties Of Tomorrow And Be Fully Present Today
This fundamental truth can help us to truly enjoy the present as well as to savour these moment to moment experiences. We can't change our past, we can only move forward the lessons learnt from the mistakes we made in the past. We can only act in the present and by doing so we can change our tomorrow. So despite our busy routine, do take the time today to smell the roses.
2. It Is Not What Happens To Us But How We Respond That Is More Important
The events and things that happen in our lives are beyond our control. We cannot dictate what life throws at us. However how we choose to respond to these events is fully within our control. If we are able to response in a positive manner we can turn what is basically a negative event into a blessing. As the saying goes, every cloud has a silver lining.
3. We Do Not Need To Have All The Answers
I really wished that I had known this fundamental truth earlier in my life. When we step out of our comfort zone, we are in unknown territory. A lot of time we feel that we need to have all the answers before we undertake something new. And because we do not have the answers, the fear of the unknown has stopped us from taking action. In our journey of life, we need to be clear of our destination. However do not expect the route to be clearly marked out for us. As long as we know what the next step is, we are able to move forward. Once we have taken the first step, the second step will become more clear to us. Please remember that there is nothing wrong to ask for help if we are unsure what step to take next.
4. Focus On The Opportunity Not On The Challenges
In order to be successful we need to be able to leverage on the opportunities that come our way. The problem arises if we put our attention on the challenges rather than the opportunity. If we focus on the challenges, these challenges may seem insurmountable, almost impossible to overcome and the opportunity may seem diminished and not worth our effort. However if our focus is on the opportunity instead, the challenges seem to have diminished and we become more confident of overcoming these challenges.
I have experienced this first hand when Roselind and I tried to set up facilities for persons with autism. If we were to look at the challenges ahead of us, it seems like an impossible tasks. At that time, facilities for persons with autism were non-existence, our knowledge of autism was minimal and we have no resources (financial or skilled manpower). But because our focus was on providing facilities for Jonathan my autistic son and others like him, we were able to overcome these challenges.
5. Loving And Accepting Our Selves
This is one truth that we often missed as we become too busy trying to impress others with our success, our status and our worldly possession. In the age of the social media, sometimes we even get upset when what we posted did not get enough likes or comments. We did not realize that the validation of who are, our self worth and self-esteem comes from within and not from outside. If we are able to love ourselves and accept ourselves for who we truly are, warts and all, our self-worth and self-esteem will be high while at the same time we can remain humble and not allow our ego to get in our way.
It is also counter-productive to compare ourselves with others. We all have our own journeys, our own cross to carry and so instead of comparing why not show a little kindness instead.
So what do you think of the fundamental truths that I have shared. Do you have any other truths that you liked to share with us?
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Thanks for such an inspirational post @positivesteem. Its like a breath of fresh air. Very beautiful advice
Thank you for your kind words. I try to spread positivity here and I hope that you will follow me for more positive posts.
Very truly said. Our fears is the number cause of our regrets in life. And at the end of our lives, our main regrets will be that we did not care to step out of our comfort zone.
yes I agree :) sometimes that's what makes life worthy after all, knowing what we are capable of .. It's better to embrace our strengths than our weaknesses. Weakness can be a strength, but strength shouldn't become a weakness. :)
Nice and motivating. I really like the part where u talked about not having all the answers. Yes, I really agree with you there as this has been my problem before now. I used to wait, trying to figure it all out before I took action but now I realize that it didn't help. Thanks for the motivation.
Thank you for your kind comments. The journey of a thousand miles begin with the first step. As long as we know what our next step is, we can take action. We do not need to have it all figured out. Sometimes we need to take a leap of faith.
They're really fundamental, especially letting go of the past, picking oneself up, learning from mistakes and moving ahead.
By just doing that we can actually lead much happier lives. We will not be stuck in the past and the future is yet to be here and so we need to be truly present here and now.
As always a great positive post. Your love for your son has shaped the life you are living and you live it for him. You make me reflect on my own life and challenges in a new way. Thank you.
Hope you and Jonathan are keeping well.
I am what I am now is the result of my journey with my autistic son. I am grateful to Steemit for providing me with the platform to share my experiences and hopefully thorough my sharing I can help others as well.
Nice post
Glad that you liked it. I hope that these truths will be ale to help you as you navigate the journey of life.
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Number 2 is extremely true I have found.
Agreed with you 100%. I have an autistic son and that is not my choice. But how I choose to respond to that situation is entirely up to me.
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Very Inspiring!
Thank you @jvhon for stopping by and for your comments. I hope that you will follow me for me. As a motivational blogger I try to spread positivity here, one post at a time.
A big yes for me. followed you @positivesteem. keep up the good work .
nice post @positivesteem
Thanks, I am happy that you like. These are fundamental truths that can help us to lead happier and more meaningful lives.
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Thank you so much. I do hope that my post is able to help others to live happier and more fulfilled lives.
Great post! I agree with all of it though I have not done very well myself per the 5 reminders that you put forth---I have not done well at all. I have learned alot though and will try to do better. The reminder of it's how you respond is so true but in a moment of anger or intense emotion it is easy to mess this up. As you know, we both have first hand experience with autism so I took special interest in that too---per this post of yours. Thank you!
Sometimes it is better we don't know all the answers to the problems that comes our way. We just have to be strong and let go of some things that will not yield any fruit for us because there is better things ahead. Let's think about that
Such goodvibes @positivesteem! Truely its all about experienced that we learned this in life and the beauty of it is that we can be happier if not happiest once we put into practice your valuable tips! Another day is a another priviledge to be happy! Stay happy and enjoy the best life can offer@positivesteem!
#2 is my favorite. So many people complain, blame and point fingers like the world is responsible for their happiness or unhappiness when in fact, it's us. Everyone meets with challenges and hardships throughout life. The only difference is how we react to them and what attitude we choose. Great tips. Thank you
Doing a great job, I have teenagers who get so worked up about not getting LIKES on social media, phones have killed the simple niceties of just "talking" to each other