There is beauty in the variation but using it as a mechanism of control rather than empowerment is where part if the problem lays.

We discriminate each day through our various preferences. Does a red shirt feel bad because I think I look better in blue?

You might loom great in red though so why can't I have my preference and appreciate red for what it is and let it have the space it needs so you can have your preference too.

You protect my rights, I protect your rights. It also means if I harm you, I am also harming me.