"The essential notion in the concept of altruism is that there is no benefit to you, making the concept fundamentally flawed in terms of actual reality. To benefit others, is to benefit you. To benefit you, is to benefit others. Only by means of disconnection from the reality of how you are connected and related to others is it possible to maintain the delusion that it is possible to benefit only someone else, without it having an impact on you. An iconic and ironic example of this is how you feel when you help someone out: it feels GREAT."
"The term that I use instead of selfishness, that is much more accurate, is self-absorbed. The value of this change is the enabling of seeing how to end the "selfishness", and that is by enlarging the circle of consideration the person is having, and you do that via listening to them. It is the same method for interacting with those who are suicidal. Suicidality and self-absorption occur when a person's space and mind is in a continuous implosionary mode. The implosion is occurring due to either a rejection of one's self, for which they need space whereby to express that and interact with it, or imposition from others close to them, whether family or friends, which has the same requirement."
@somethingsea
You are describing the normative application of the words which, like i explained, do not exist.
as for the suicide part, that is highly subjective. it looks like quote mining from a book.
I quote-mined it from myself, as I've thought and written extensively on it.
I'm defending your mocking of the terms,
because I'm pissed off with how people use them too.
"Selfish", in the common colloquial, is like "capitalism", in that it has two opposite meanings that, when thought is put to them, results in the explosion of the common conception, with the end result being that the term has no meaning, by the common conception, and it only makes sense to say "selfish" in terms of whether they are acting in a self-absorbed fashion, or a self-aware and expanded fashion.
Those are the only two directions of the meaning of selfish -
implosionary and violent, or expansive and loving.