I get what you are saying and this is why i upvoted you but really, we all go through mistakes. We all really love ourselves one way or another.
sometimes though we go through "tough love" and some punishment has to come before progress is to be made.
Yes, I agree but tjis essay is about a simple part of our lives: prioritizing yourself first instead of pleasing others and damaging yourself (in the first place emotionally and then even psychological).
I like that you put this down: "punishment has to come before progress is to be made.".
Of course. Inevitably, we learn our lessons in our own pace.