A fascinating topic, indeed!
The fact that we are all so deeply energetically enmeshed makes this one fun to dig into.
I will say that I tend to side with the manner you recommended, while recognizing that most times, the most important thing I can do is maintain my own state of being.
Holding a harmonious energy within myself is something that seems to help me keep my "free will" responses to life stimulus self-considerate, as well as considerate of others and the whole.