TO BE LIKED OR TO BE RESPECTED

in #philosophy6 years ago (edited)

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Have you ever seen a young girl, probably on her early high school years, dressing up like an adult, posing in camera as if she’s a model of a sexy magazine, and posting a dance video that provokes lust? They are seemingly happy about what they are doing because it gives them popularity. The feeling of being likable gives pleasure until it brainwashes them. This kind of fame can blind a person’s way of thinking. To get a huge number of people that will hit those thumbs up are their priority more than anything else.

It is hard to see when someone is disgracing a woman but it is even harder to accept that she is doing it to herself. How will they respect us if we are not respecting ourselves in the first place?

I have nothing against showing some skin because fashion is another way of expressing ourselves. If you are on a beach, you will surely be on your swimwear since it is the appropriate attire for swimming. If you are partying in a club, you can wear a bit of heavy makeup. If its summer and the weather are too hot, you can always go with sleeveless. If you are someone who’s proud of how physically fit you are, there’s nothing wrong to wear some crop top to reveal your abs.

Everybody can be a fashion icon without having the need of sacrificing your values. You can always be beautiful in every way that you want, but be pretty with a high dignity.

Before doing anything, ask yourself first if this is the image that you want your children and grandchildren to remember you? Outside appearance fades easily as we get older while good personality remains in the memories of many. Do you want to know a secret? A man will always appreciate beauty but at the end of the day, he will choose a woman worthy to bear his own flesh. A wife that he can be proud to introduce in his entire relatives, knowing that she is a woman with respectable traits.

Same as with women, we are also looking for a man worthy of our love. We don’t need a handsome guy with a habit of collecting girls as his trophies; we want a firm but gentleman with a faithful heart.

People will tend to like you if you are doing the things that they want you to do and will dislike you immediately if you are doing the contrary. For an instance, a bully will like you if you are following his orders but once you refused, he will be very mad. It shows that not everyone who likes you, respect you. A true strength is needed to gain respect from other people. It doesn’t happen in an overnight sleep, you must prove yourself. To earn respect means that you are willing to stand with what you believe is right and live with it even though many will oppose you.

Yes, popularity and fame are fantastic but respect tastes better than attention. Have you tasted it?

Philosophy in life worth pondering:

  1. One life to live, Real Life is hardcore
  2. DOING THE RIGHT THINGS OR DOING THE THINGS RIGHT
  3. DOES TRUTH NEEDS EVIDENCE
  4. THE FEAR OF LOSING WHAT YOU NEVER HAD
  5. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO OWN YOUR EMOTIONS? @ecotrain QOTW
  6. TO LOVE AND BE HURT OR NEVER LOVE AT ALL
  7. CAN YOU BE TRULY HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY
  8. CAN PEOPLE REALLY CHANGE
  9. HOW SHOULD YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE
  10. HOW OPEN ARE YOU ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS TO OTHER PEOPLE? @ecoTrain QOTW






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Very nicely expressed.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

The beauty of appearance will necessarily fade with age, regardless of how vigorously cultivated. The beauty of the heart, if cultivated in godliness, can increase throughout one's lifetime. If you win the man with what is fleeting, how will you keep such a shallow man interested? If you win him with a heart of godliness that grows with each beat, he'd be a fool to jeopardize that.

This is so beautiful! All the words are full of wisdom.
We should not focus on how the public will see us, what matters the most is how God is seeing us.
Time will come that our youthful skin will get saggy and no amount of expensive accessories can hide the signs of aging, but a good heart will always remain.
Let us shine with our good personality. Popularity fades easily, let people remember us by how respectable we are. Let us prove that we are worthy to be respected. :)

good parenting advice here.. and great post! I agree with you and it makes me sad to see young girls being too obssessed with their makeup and look.

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These young girls must enjoy their innocence rather than doing things that can hurt their reputation.
Thank you sir for appreciating my writings. :)

Definitely we need to respect ourselves first! Nice article Ma'am!

Thank you sir, God bless you! :)

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You expressed your thoughts well.

Thanks much for being so nice. :)

Of course, I am glad to be respected by others because of my great work and my good attitude. However, it's not easy to make ourselves to be respected if we ourselves do not respect others. So, people should respect each other either on the strengtheness or weaknesses they have.

You are indeed worthy to be respected and you are right, we must respect each other all the time. :)

hello dear @escuetapamela, I admire you and I respect you for this wonderful posts of reflection, all your words are very true, If we do not respect ourselves, nobody will do it. If we want to establish a firm and honorable union we must begin by behaving honorably. A great greeting to you.

You are so sweet! Thank you for being such kind.
Very true, we must respect ourselves first and show respect to other people as well.
We should also behave properly and be careful of how what we share in public specially in social media.
Always think before we click. :)