I can relate to your concerns, but I think in the larger scheme of things, peace is inevitable. The most aggressive people will kill each other off. If you think of violence, imagine it, watch it, you tend to invite it. So I push it out of my mind when I see it. In every interaction I have with others, I watch my language and my intentions for aggression, even passive aggression.
I'm new to NAP, but my first impression is that non-aggression goes down to my words. I don't speak of aggression. I don't antagonize people with my words. I seek to err on the side of peace at all times. I avoid situations that could lead to violence.
The changes you seek as expressed in your post are generational changes. The kind of society you envision in your post requires generations of effort to establish peace. For some people, that kind of thinking is actually a way of life, not just a philosophy or a principle to follow.
I've read many books on human relations and by far, the best book I have ever read on relationships is this one: "Raising Human Beings", by Dr. Ross W. Greene. His thesis is simple, "Kids would do better if they could." Kids would do better if they had the skills to do better. It's not a question of motivation.
That book lays out a framework for collaborative problem solving with kids. In that book, there is no mind reading or manipulation and it casts the entire "punishment and reward" method of raising kids to the waste bin. I believe that Dr. Greene is laying the groundwork for a peaceful revolution that could create the society that anarchists or voluntaryists (sp?) promote.
That book isn't just for raising kids. It's a description of a way of life that can ultimately bring peace to the human race because it clearly identifies the source of conflict for all of us. Problems that we cannot solve give rise to challenging behavior. If we collaborate together to solve those problems, the challenging behavior goes away.
I just can't see a better way to get to that society of non-aggression. I hope you find this information helpful in resolving your personal crisis. Just start with you and set the example for people to follow.
Yes I am aware of this. I believe I said it is my goal but, would likely happen after I am no longer alive.
As to the rest. I've already been walking that path you described for some time.
I only recently realized that while I am walking it that the masses walking the other direction seem to be mobilizing. Sure aggressive forces will meet, they will die out, and eventually we will have peace. That is a given cycle.
Yet, does that mean I should ignore it and potentially be caught up in it, and left as one of the corpses in the aftermath, whether I was peaceful or naught?
NAP is not pacifism. It does believe in Self Defense and I have pretty much only focused on localizing my views of it. To my local area and what I perceive physically near me or others, and to my speech as you have indicated.
Though I am starting to see NAP may be a bit larger than just localization. See @cupidzero's comment. I think he made a much better write up in his response to me than I could do myself.