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RE: Why does negativity keep us negative?

in #philosophy7 years ago (edited)

Sometimes accepting people is walking away from them. It's not something meant to be taken personally, it's meant to protect our own happiness. We can accept people and exclude ourselves from their lives, rejection would be staying and trying to convince them they are somehow wrong and need to change. At least that's how I see it.

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unless the other person is being physically or emotionally abusive to you, acceptance would mean remaining present yet not trying to change them or judge them. if you need to walk away away from someone in order to protect your happiness, that means you are basing your happiness on another persons actions or emotions. i usually find if i need to walk away from someone, its because the other person is bringing up an emotion in myself that i havent addressed.

if you need to walk away away from someone in order to protect your happiness, that means you are basing your happiness on another persons actions or emotions

I guess we will have to agree to disagree. I feel that when we stop basing our hapiness on other people we can walk away from all of them and still be equally happy. Isolation and walking away from a person you fundamentally disagree with are not the same thing. Physical abuse is pretty easy to define, but emotional abuse is very subjective and none of us owe anyone anything. What we give to others is given freely or with attached expectations. Expectations lead to that feeling of "investment" or "deserving" something from someone else. If our happiness isn't based on them we can let them walk away just as easily as we can do the walking away.

well all of this is really difficult to determine based on a generalized concept. we might even agree but be keeping different examples in our head when we are speaking, so really miscommunication is the culprit.