I had never heard of the word compersion before and it's not in my dictionary. Wikipedia redirects that query to polyamory which is something as old as life itself.
Yes, life is for living and experiencing and if polyamory calls to you it should be explored to its fullest. I have known many people with open relationships and, like relationships in general, most of them end badly. I see no problem with this unless a child is brought into such a situation. Not so much that it is bad for the child per se, but a child raised under such circumstances will not fit in well with his or her peers, will be confused by the dominant culture. This may be good. It may be bad. Sometimes the best people emerge from the worst conditions. It is worth consideration, however.
To me, what you are talking about here is simple self indulgence and not compassion for the other as you seem to imply. Again, that should be considered and explored to the fullest, but if examined beforehand, there has been much written to caution against too much self esteem and too much self indulgence. It leads nowhere and causes much suffering in the world. There is no salvation in that direction, no lasting joy or peace. But first hand knowledge is always the best teacher.
Getting what you want is also a theme that has been around forever. Wanting is a problem in itself since it can never be satisfied. So is not-wanting or aversion, the flip-side of desire. Setting and achieving goals is ultimately an empty endeavor and a waste of precious time. You are young and have lots of discovery ahead of you. I applaud your searching and experimenting. So much better than just sitting on your ass your entire life and simply accepting what others tell you or slaving away to fill your life with useless junk. That is a truly wasted life. Nice post.
Hey @citizenzero, I really appreciate your response here.
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I will agree that some individuals choose the poly path to indulge their sexual senses. Some seem to collect a variety of men or women, which ultimately leads to a bunch of shallow relationships.
The other side of poly is the part that most don't see, where you create a strong bond with another individual, and then muster up the courage to let that individual be who they are, without constricting them to one intimate experience. It's an intense act of letting go and trusting the strength of the relationship. This requires you to face everything that is anything but self esteem and self indulgence. It's very humbling. It is, in my opinion, the ultimate act of compassionately letting go in a relationship.
I appreciate the encouragement though. I'm one whose always been interested in questioning cultural norms and experimenting with new lifestyles. Thus far, poly has been incredibly difficult but equally rewarding.
Thanks for stopping by friend :)
I can see how, if entered consciously, it would give you much insight into your own emotional makeup. That's the way I approached psychedelics. People warned me but I was into expanding my consciousness, not just getting loaded. It proved to be a wonderful tool that didn't become a monkey on my back. Naysayers are always the timid ones. Experience is always the best teacher.
Fully agree man. Poly definitely feels similar to psychedelics in that sense. You're walking into a space that is undocumented and thus, anything can happen. There's a reason that most humans don't venture outside the realms of governmental control - its that comfort in knowing the details.
Discovering those details for yourself through experience is a very different and brave world to live in!