Shane if I could give this 10 votes I would. Reasoning with children takes longer but it's an example that they will remember in later life.
People that believe in the other route basically run out of patience and will always quote. "It never did me any harm". With that said how do these same people then decide to reason with adults when they refuse to do what they want.
Thank you!
I think that spanking parents perhaps haven't experienced the satisfaction of successfully reasoning with their children.
When you are able to explain a lesson to your child and you see the lightbulb go off in their eyes, or you finish an instruction and say "does that make sense?" and they answer with a confident "Yes", there is hardly a better feeling as a parent.
Because you've helped them substantially in their development. Rather than neglecting their need to be taught, or regressing their curiosity by hitting them, you've satisfied them in the best way possible.
And that is one of the best feelings in the world.
I was spanked as a kid. Most kids my generation were, so we thought it was normal. I spanked my child a few times too. She says shes not damaged by it. Now I wish I hadnt done it. Im in my early sixties now and look foward to peaceful parenting my future grandkids.
Its funny how theres a role reversal here. Among my older friends I see them being neglected and not cared for enough. Children do not realise that as parents age they behave like infants. They need peaceful parenting and gentle love too. I hope every parent and every child with parents will practise peaceful parenting. Thanks for ur great post here.