Great post, I treat my daughter in the same way that I would another adult in a group or conversation. Mutual respect and that is how they will learn to interact and thrive!!
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Great post, I treat my daughter in the same way that I would another adult in a group or conversation. Mutual respect and that is how they will learn to interact and thrive!!
Just curious, have you also noticed much of if not essentially all of the bad things you hear about kids to be false? When babysitting I've built relationships with kids, even toddlers, where they see me as I see them, as an equal.
Funnily enough they always treat me not only better than their parents, but better than literally anyone they know. They respect me as I respect them.
That means no terrible twos, no babies crying for no reason, no fits. Not once, in the thousands of hours and nearly a dozen kids in the last couple years. Well once, one baby girl who was one was drove around all day by her parents and was ultra-upset and still she was only that: upset and fussy. Still no "fit" for me.
When you respect them they respect you, and mutual respect and trust means they listen to you as you listen to them, and thus no misunderstanding happen.
It's so sad so many babies cry and kids have fits simply because their parents do not respect them and won't let a child do a simple thing, such as touch a balloon at a car dealership, and thus the child flips out.
Have you noticed this too(?); that your kids are abnormally well behaved according to how kids apparently "naturally act."
I have noticed the exact same thing. All of the things that other folk see as bad, the bemused looks because she talks excitedly and interrupts them or she wants to do something and I let her and I can see people thinking she cant pull your trolley in the shops etc etc.
She is amazingly well behaved and I think it is exactly as you say above because she is respected and treated as one of us and not just a thing or an annoyance!
I always laugh thinking of all the confused faces and obscurity people think when I'm out in public with kids.
Especially from family, who have many times been holding their kids and then they walk away, and then the kid starts crying (usually baby, obviously) and I quickly run up and request the baby, they give me a weird face, I take the baby to what I think they want and then they're happy and we're back on track wherever in seconds.
Now the obscure face of wondering what I did and how I knew, and why would I go out of my way to do that, all bundled in one expression.
Little do they realize that not only is it good for the baby to do that, but it's good for you as you don't have to have an upset, sad, loud, crying baby.
Silly regular people clearly must not speak baby, or toddler, or maybe they just don't care :(((
Why not let your kid take a trolly in, especially if the store has baskets, it's really not obstructing anything, and besides, nobody really cares. They'd think it's weird, and obscure, but cute~
Yes. Well said.