Parenting

Your kids love you.
Your kids are watching you. Every single step of the way. Most absorbing in moments you don't even realise.

They follow your steps.

The way you talk to them and yourself becomes their inner voice.

Their struggles are your struggles. What I mean is: if your child struggles to stand up for itself, where are you struggling to stand up for yourself.

The way you show up for yourself and in this world sets the foundation for the way your child shows up for itself and in the world.

Who are you putting first?

Where do your priorities lie?

How quick are you at forgiving yourself?

Our children love us so much.
It is time to love ourselves so dearly, deeply and genuinely that they are happy seeing us loving and respecting ourselves.

We can always shift, heal and transform anything.

We are all learning and always growing.

I believe teaching them to love themselves, cherish themself, asking self reflective questions does go a long way.

Yes, they may get irritated - don't you when someone points the finger back at you? - it is so worth it.

Go first. Lead. With all your heart, awareness and consciousness. Do your best. Be kind to yourself and know that you have a choice.

I find this parenting is a hard gig. Although I'm not sure if parenting is hard sometimes or changing ourselves, practising awareness, forgiving ourselves when we did not show up in the way we wish we did, making decisions that are best for our kids when we don't always know what that is, learning, holding ourselves while we hold space for them and their emotions/thoughts/ideas.

Breathe.

The only way to improve your relationship to your kids is by improving the relationship to yourself.

I have worked with mums and their children in refuges, kids with OCD, mum's whose children are in prison/drug addicts, families in Domestic Violence and I have helped and supported young children find their voice when bullied, improved entire family flow and brought it back to more ease and harmony and so much more - Reiki for the babies and him when he was a baby. In fact, I got attuned when I was pregnant with him.

I love children 🥰

I keep being surprised and blown away by them and their abilities and capabilities. Every child teaches me something when I work with it and I am forever grateful.
Even babies are very expressive with their energy and intention when I Reiki them. Extremely special to my heart.

Personally, I am speechless with what my son comes up with sometimes: how intuitive he is, capable, intelligent, strong willed and knowing. It does challenge me deeply to trust him and support him on his journey sometimes. Loving myself and changing me to be the mum I want to be for him.

Our kids truly do support our enlightenment big time. The older he grows, the more I see myself and my own short comings in him and a great opportunity to face it all.

He is a big motivation to me to be my best self. Always has been.

He keeps me on track and showing up for myself. Sometimes eventually, but I do get there. There is no denial anymore when you have children.

They tell you and call you out as well.

Lately, I have noticed that the way we raise our kids DOES change the world. If we set certain boundaries, practise certain values, it riddles out in our environment like schools, circle of friends, etc. The saying: "If you want to change the world, go home and love your family" is on point.

And task enough if you ask me :-D in all the good ways. Raising children is an ongoing adventure, a privilege, an honor. You gotta keep showing up. No matter how old your children.
Every accomplishment is a moment and the work (pleasure) keeps going straight away because if you don't keep showing up, you'll loose it.

Make sure you persue your passions and dreams. This way the fall out will be less when they end up moving out, you have a sense of accomplishment (like chopping wood) and you are an inspiration for your kids.
Who doesn't want to live a full, love filled, happy life?!

Anyway, think about next time you wake up seeing them covered in poo, breaking your tweezers, draw on the wall, refuse to eat your cooked/prepared food, etc etc etc.

Yes, roll your eyes but WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER.

Single parent, couples with kids, etc. So many constellations.

Last but not least, there are dark times around children as well: rape, bullying, abuse, torture.
May I say something that might trigger you:
When I read an article about children being brutally tortured, yes, I felt for them deeply, at the same time, it put my situation into perspective and I felt deep release and gratitude for where I was at.

"Everything that happened, had to happen because it happened." Lois Rowley said that to me when I faced moments in which I had trouble understanding and finding compassion for what we went through. (Yes, I do go through challenges, too.)

There is ALWAYS a way. What ever you are facing: there is always a way. And that way includes compassion, love, light, hope and more. I PROMISE.

When I look at the picture below, what comes to mind is: we are facing life together, we are facing each other, we are in this with them. Our children are in this with us.

Remember: they chose you to be their parent! You chose them.

What a great life, is it not?!

PS: If you find yourself feeling feelings towards your child that are negative, resentful, hateful and more - know that these can be transformed as well and that you are not alone.

PPS: Our children truly are warriors and their own heros, as Heinrich figured out today 🥰 and what ever they are facing in life, their spirit can handle. No matter what age. Keep it mind. And what ever they are facing, we are able to handle as well. In fact, we did contribute to it in some way. And it is all changable.

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