I feel identified with your post the truth I stay away from the woman I still love for these same reasons today I understand this as you explain it but it has been a long time since she has a new partner and although we have talked she would like to return to try one more time and leave everything behind but you have that problem they will say, what their relatives and the relatives of the current couple will think. It is a dilemma in which she does not find an exit because she is closed to seeing things as they should be for her happiness as you mention it in your post