We are all conversant with the popular phrase “experience is the best teacher”. True, no one can dispute that fact, as being experienced in certain issues or cases improves our handling of similar cases once the need arises. But there are certain facets of our lives where being overly experience can harm us or our relationships. One of such is SEXUAL EXPERIENCE.
Am an unapologetic believer in the divine and one who believes that all models given to us by God for our existence remains the perfect models for a happy life. One may ask, what model has God given out to us when it comes to sex and relationships..Its simple, like we say in the streets of lagos” one man one vote” which could translate to one man one wife. I will break this down, stay with me.
Now, am not by any means claiming to be holier or a saint, but I must say It really disturbing the statistics of failed and broken marriages world over, even in my conservative country NIGERIA. Am not by any means implying that the only reason for so many failed marriage and relationships is as a result of sex, but I can tell for sure that sex is at the Centre of about 70% percent of failed and broken marriages. Many couples may admit it, whilst many hide under the shadow of other petty excuses. One begins to wonder why we didn’t have all these in the 80’s,70’s and 60’s.Our women have become bolder and thus ready to seek sexual pleasures from other sources, some at the detriment of their marriages.
THIS BOLDNESS STEMS FROM SEXUAL OVER-EXPERIENCE.
Is there a prescribed level of experience? THAT I CAN’T TELL. But what I can tell for sure is too much experience hurts our partners. WE FIND OURSELVES DEMANDING ALL THAT WE HAVE LEARNT OR ACQUIRED FROM OTHER SEXUAL EXPERIENECES FROM ONE PARTNER. Now, imagine having had 5 sexual partners before marriage, and then settling down with a lady or a man who has none, we may find ourselves applying the experience garnered from those 5 relationships from one person, and if he/she doesn’t meet up, issues arise. Considering how difficult it is for most of us to forget our 1st sexual experience (particularly ladies)I think its time we re-examined a whole lot in our sexual lives world over, because at the rate with which families are breaking up, we might end up redefining the meaning of family.
These are my musings, but I know for a fact that God’s model always works and it has always been the best for mankind. Let us stick to the plan, refocus our sexual orientations, save families, create better futures, better future, and better life.