I can attest to all this, yes :)

When I met my husband, he was into porn and we both stimulated ourselves. However, I have CPTSD from abuse, (part of that abuse was sexual) and the narcissist used porn as part of his methods to either punish me or threaten me.

My husband and I, before we knew we would even marry, discussed stopping the self stimulation and he agreed to stop viewing porn. I wanted it to be fair, so what applied to him, also applied to me. At first it wasn't clear cut, and we slowly got into it as we established how certain things made us feel.

It happened a couple of times when one of us slipped up and didn't tell the other until we did talk about it and it felt like he had gone behind my back, because of what I had lived in the past. But these moments were also stepping stones, where we realised how important it was to communicate our affectionate and sexual needs but not neglect our bodies.

Over time, I learnt that it's ok for me to not be able to make love and that he will not seek satisfaction elsewhere as a way to punish me, like my abuser would do.

It has been so many years now since the last time one of us did anything other than make love to each other. Our sexual energy builds up and it is saved for us. We can be intimate without sex and still feel orgasmically pleasured, just from the energy. We are satisfied just by being together, we don't always need sex to be satisfied in terms of affection. I also used to be afraid to initiate sex and I have come to a point where most of time, if I feel it's now, I tell him it's now, without the fear of "being turned down". And if he does tell me he is unable, it doesn't make me feel as though I am being rejected. I have worked on healing much of the abuse and am so much more confident and comfortable sexually with my husband. Yes, sometimes I still feel guilty turning him down, but I can now tell him that what I need is for us to not make love, without being afraid. Guilt and fear don't have to go hand in hand. But mostly, I've moved passed a lot of my issues in that regard.

We have all this energy for each other. I also find that I am a lot more creative and inspired when my libido is high. This is regardless whether we've made love or not, because some weeks, it's every day, twice a day, and I'm so inspired and there is so much of that energy. Other times, it's more subdued, but even when we feel the need to not make love, that energy is there, so we feel the love connection anyway, breathing each other in. It is such a wonderful sensation to share with someone to whom I have pledged my love for the rest of my life.

What started as something that could help me heal, has become something that we wish to continue for the growth of our love and the health of our relationship.

Those last few lines of your article sum it right up lol "Once a person reaches an equilibrium of energy one can recycle the fuel through sexual energy transmutation or with help of a right partner, at this point sex becomes divine, an act of meditation."

I agree 100%. When you can have an orgasm without any sexual intercourse or foreplay, you know you've reached a level of meditative sexual connection with your partner.