Most of us find it difficult to say no to things, but this often has negative effects on our time and energy. From now on, select the situations when someone really needs your help, learn to say no more often and you’ll be happier.
We enjoy being liked by everyone and we think that if we’re not always there for everyone, people won’t appreciate us anymore, but that’s not true. True friends will understand that there will be moments when we need to take care of ourselves first.
Next time, when you tend to say yes but in your mind the answer is no, close your eyes for a second and change your answer.
You can be anything, but you can’t be everything! I strongly believe that we can become what we want, but we’re only human and we can’t do absolutely everything. Why? Because we don’t have super powers.
Because we’re afraid of being impolite, we say yes when we want to say no. But when you tell somebody “no”, all you’re doing is to make it clear that you’re in the driver’s seat and you choose your own road. So when you refuse something, you’re not a bad person, you’re just mature.
It might feel uncomfortable at first, I must admit. You might even be a little anxious, worrying that people will hate you. But with time, you’ll find out how easy it is to speak your mind and be in control of your own life. Take this for example: when someone asks you to do something, take a moments to put things in balance.
Ask yourself “is this going to make me feel good? It will make me happier?”. If the answer is yes, then go for it. But if the answer is no, don’t do it just because you want to be appreciated by others.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help people! I’m saying that you should only do what you want to do! If helping a friend in need makes you happy, do it. If giving a homeless man money makes you smile, do it.
But don’t let people manipulate into doing whatever they want you to do just because they’re used to always receiving “yes” for an answer. I guarantee you that when you’ll learn to live like this, you’ll have a better life.
Sometimes no is the hardest thing to accept but yes comes out of our mouths so easily I think it also depends on the situation we are on and with whom
yes...true
I am a victim of this problem but i don't know how can i overcome this problem.I know that saying yes always is not good for me,people started to take me for granted.They are using me for their purpose.But i am practicing to say no to people and i started with me.Some times i think of doing something which will be not good for me at that time i say no to me.I hope someday i also be able to say no to others.This is a very useful post for people like me because we know about the problem but discussed about it with us.Thank you once again.
That's absolutely right.I have got such problem,i can't say no to anybody.It creates problem for me most of the time and immediate after saying yes a start feeling bad.I know i should have told no but i said yes and now i am gonna repent for this.But now i am trying to say no people and its started working already.It saved me from different kinds of problem.Thanks for the post.This will help a lot of people to decide what they should say is it yes or no.
yeah! sometimes!!!
The reason we don't say NO because we're afraid that other person will not like us for our action. Doesn't matter how many times you say YES to the situations when you actually want to say NO, you still can't make everyone happy.
Decline politely.
Thank you for reading.
One of the most difficult things for me is to say NO to others. To some extent nurturing reshaped me in this way, and other thing did the religion. Even at this age i find it so difficult reason you already mentioned above...
But i am fully agreed upon the point that NO makes things more easy and simple for us, thanks a lot @jwolf <3
its hard to say that but sometime we have to take tough decision
Saying NO is really hard but it is a must have trait if you want to move forward and accomplish things. Help when you can but if you see that it is drawing you back say NO. As you will not be able to help anybody when you are down.
I used to be like this a while back. So much time lost because of always saying "yes" instead of "no, thanks".
And the problem is that when people see that you can never turn them down with anything they will keep on pushing and pushing and pushing.
So yeah, learning to say know is huge step towards finding your happiness. It's also a great way to save your most valuable resource, which is time.
Wise words . I once found myself in a situation where i had to lend my last cash to a very close friend hoping he'l pay back a day after just because i couldnt say NO . I lost both the money and the friendship . but also learnt a lesson "we really cannot please everyone in life "
Wow...I have also written a post on it. Always saying "yes" is not gonna make you happier. You don't know when you might suffer :D attaching my post here. Glad to read your post.
https://steemit.com/life/@rinki/learn-to-say-no-it-will-save-your-life
Thats so right..thanks for such an insightful thoughts @jwolf
will think about this article in the moment i feel when to say that or not :)
That is my weakest point..i can't say no even i know im a bit of a floormat sometimes