I mean some trump fans ARE neo-nazis so there's that.
I used to have friends on the right end of the political spectrum until they turned out to be white-supremacists, transphobes, and respectability politics advocates. It's hard being around people who literally don't support your existence so I don't bother at this point. Besides, the anarcho-communists, radical feminists, humanists, and lefties I'm close with have always been beacons of compassion, strength, intellect, and grace in my life.
"I will not waste it on disappointing people who fail to come correct after I and others like me give them room to be human, fallible, and messy."
As in: I won't hold my breathe waiting for public figures (or anyone for that matter) who refuse to grow and learn to be better in the future after they make mistakes that are harmful or hurtful to people who engage with them or their content on a regular basis. Especially after being given space to reflect, evaluate their actions, and understand the impact of their behaviour.
Haha. I struggle with writing a reply to you.
On one hand I absolutely reject the idea that identity is Political. When I move past the Political stuff and discover the human beings behind the left/right claptrap then it turns out we're not that too much dissimilar at all. We all have stories to tell. And also as a person that continually reflects on his own behaviour I completely understand how difficult achieving that mindset can be - I tend to give others lots of grace.
Yet on the other hand I completely agree with you that you should absolutely do, think, be what you want to be. If you want to circle yourself in all these people that are like you say compassionate and empowering then it should be up to you to do that! More power to you for deciding that.
So I guess all in all - you do you! Which you are doing, and awesome :)