One of the things that I have learned in my lifetime is -
chat and text is very very subjective. Sometimes we think we have explained something really clearly - and in the end - we just haven't. We are talking too fast, or emotional, or - OTHER people are reading too fast - and also emotional, and communication breaks down quickly
Then we react too fast to that, and our mind goes to a very defensive place, and also becomes paranoid, and sensitivities become raw.
I honestly don't know enough about splinterlands to know what happened, but I do know 1. its a game 2 there is money involved and 3 there is a competitive pressure to stay on top of things and grow.
Combining all those things with a team (guild) where communication is apparently needed to thrive, is tricky business. I read some of the comments below - and you can see - they've explained themselves, they showed where the miscommunication happened - and now you've had a chance to respond.
It's sad that you left the guild if there are people there who really are willing to help. Sometimes its best to take the loss, take a day off, breathe a bit, try to gain some perspective, give time for people to respond, and then consider what's best for you. you know? I wonder if you just reacted too quickly given the circumstances?
But - all in all, you have to go where you feel comfortable. And if you feel that there is a better place for you - go there! If you want to mend fences - try to communicate with the leaders there and see if you can hash it out.
Whatever you do, seek peace. Even if the peace is just in yourself. Have peace going forward, and always take a break, take a breath (or two) and move forward when you're calm.
Hope you have a great day today - and don't let the outside world negate the peace in your inside world
:)
Yeah that is true texts can be rather subjective at times that's why when writing this post I had to reread it several times over and figure out my frame of reference.
Yeah my frustration is how neoxian (aka Mr. Dragon) responded to me in 2 parts both removal in chat cause I left his guild and made that post and his need to refer to me as a "crybaby" or to "xxxx off" in a later post. Regardless of your position and stature you shouldn't put people down in such a way especially when it isn't properly warranted.
Yeah your right that is why in all facets of my life I always try to find or create win-win situations or at anytime a win-win-win hence me just renting it at whatever prices near the end as I value my time greatly and I could have just as easily and more than willing to have given a guildmate all of that overpay vs a random stranger.
Yeah a guild is all about proper communication and teamwork or at least in my opinion if not I would just attack the game solo lol. That is why I made the executive decision and where the follow up post I put in this picture. Which he then instantly responded with a kick out of chatroom (not guild related as it is 2 different boards) and when i pmed him for clarity as seen above that was yet again his response to me.
Many times people maybe afraid to speak out due to who they are speaking out against, but for me I have nothing to lose here and even if I did, I'm the type of individual to fight for my beliefs even if at times its against all odds. Without those principles and beliefs who are we really?
For me it isn't about the help, but how I was mistreated and abused in the aftermath. Also that personal community just isn't for me but I have nothing wrong with them as a collective or group of individuals just in how an individual chose to respond and treat me in the process. Also I can just as easily be contacted through pm or element which btw none have done so but 2 have responded here, not that it is their obligation or need to even respond as it in whole isn't on them.
I already moved forward as that situation lead to several guild's asking me lol but I had already made a promise to another that I am following through on now. <3 I agree so much with you as if one place didn't appreciate or acknowledge you the world is so vast and you can always find somewhere/one that will accept you for who you are in it's entirety who won't mistreat or abuse you.
Thanks I'm always actually challenging and questioning my ideals of peace and what it is I want out of life as that is very important to me at my core. I'm just making sure that situations like this I can shine light and awareness on that no matter who you are, your position of power, or think you are you should never treat someone in such a manner.
Yeah it is actually quite good of a day as I'm feeling the vibes of some of the messages and support I'm getting as apparently this isn't the first time this has happened. I'm just not someone that will drown out my own beliefs because I may face adversity along the way.
!PIZZA
I think that's what is most important.
connecting with people on the same journey as you.
and realizing that others are on a much different journey.
not letting their journey hurt yours.
I'm actually writing my post about that now hehehe... i'll tag you in the comment section or send you a DM when its done hehe
yeah for sure I'd love to read about that tag/dm are both fine
I could not agree more... this world is way too big of a place to allow other peoples journey's to hurt that of our own. I've already found another guild that seems to give me a rather good vibe as I've already have rather deep connections/talks with some of the members already and it was rather heartwarming to receive several invites to join other guilds in this process.
I just think at times awareness is important and when someone wrongs someone else they should be held accountable to their words or at least apologize for it, but we will see what comes from all of this. Thanks I really appreciate all the effort you put in your comments also never feel obliged to respond as that is sometimes a stress I find myself in as well. I don't really know too much about you as we've only recently met but I can get a feeling and understanding through the posts/comments you've already made not only on my personal posts/dm's but the outreach you continually do in support of the community at large.
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