Hello Steemians!
As much as I wanted to post on a regular basis, I really had a hard time trying to juggle my regular work, planning and managing @steemsummit's account, and squeezing some of my "me time" to get along with my friends. Although I'm not complaining, there are cases that my body would signal that it wanted go back to its original rhythm. I'm having a full schedule the whole week that my special Saturday slumber has been compromised. Add the problematic process in my work where I need to determine the root cause of the problem as soon as possible. There's always this question as to where I get my time to write.
Even with my current situation, I'm still proud to have reached this far. With Steem Summit on the way, my schedule will become a mess in the coming days. I will have to sacrifice something; maybe this account's usual posting habit. Nevertheless, I'm ecstatic that it's my fifth musing! Let's just save those problems on another day.
To those who followed my musings, I thank you all for your dedication. You know who you are. I mentioned some of you in my fourth musing. I'm so happy when @ginabot notified me that I was mentioned in some of your posts. I didn't ask for any of that because clearing out what's in my head is my first priority. It was an honor to be mentioned in a post.
Back to the topic at hand:
As a disclaimer, my musings are based on my personal observations and accounts. I don't claim absolute certainty to these musings as they are subject to my own prejudice. You are not obliged to agree with me and you are all entitled to your own opinion. You are even free to air them out in the comment below. No holds barred. I'll will not use them against you.
I will be a little bit controversial this time. I bet many will disagree with me, but I have to blurt it all out.
On Building Bridges
While growing up, we will meet different kinds of people from different kinds of backgrounds and upbringings. We will make connections and friends along the way. There will be those who will stick with us and will be our life-long friends. Some might be just pure acquaintances. Some will stay for a while, but will eventually leave for they have their own reasons. That's the reality of life. No one will stay forever.
As we grow old, our priorities will change. So as our choices; including those who we choose to be friends. It does matter how many friends we made along the way. What matters is the quality of the bond being forged. We must build lasting bridges, rather than create a shabby one. It will just crumble with time.
Invest in strong foundations of relationships. Edify those existing ones. Strengthen those that are slowly weakening. It requires effort. It requires both parties to agree. It requires teamwork and time. If you're not into serious bonds, I bet the bridges that you're building are shaky in its foundations.
On Burning Bridges
As the title of this musing suggests, I'm more into logic than emotion. Burning bridges is difficult especially when you have invested so much in creating that bond with someone. But I have to tell you that it's better than holding on to a crumbling bridge. It is burden and you will eventually become weary while you hold, but the other party did not do anything to save what you both have invested.
Burn bridges if you have to. Cut ties if there's a need to do so. Do not linger on toxic relationships. You're not entitled to continue with something you're not happy anymore. A crumbling bridge will eventually collapse so it's better if you just cut your emotional ties with it the soonest.
To truly move forward, sometimes you have to eliminate the excess baggage that you're always carrying. It will just drag you down. If those excess baggages are people, stay away from them. They don't bring any good to you at all. They will just plunge you down to your oblivion. Never feel any remorse as they don't feel any remorse for being toxic. Your life is yours and you don't owe anyone an explanation for your decisions and actions. Your life is your responsibility. You can steer it in any direction that you like.
On Striking a Balance
My points seem to be contradicting, but it's not. The trick is to strike a balance between building and destructing relationships. Know when to build and know when to destroy. If you will not cut ties just because think that you are so good, you are fooling yourself. More importantly, your adding burden to yourself. There will be a time when you will stress on things you're supposed to set aside.
As a parting advice, I'll leave you this quote:
Be strong yet supple. This is the way to rule.
Sir Te (Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon)
See you in my next musing!
Kim, @ybanezkim26
My other musings in order:
Musings 1: Read Something Before You Write Something
Musings 2: If You Want to Maximize Your Curation Rewards, Do Not Rely Solely On Curation Trails
Musings 3: Focus On Your Growth
Musings 4: Be With the People Who Matter
I agree with you that as much as we want to post on regular day-to-day basis. There would always time that we need to prioririze more important thing, or perhaps, there are times that, for me, We encouter wrting blocks especially if we our posting good quality write ups. On burning bridges, I think your ideas where contradicting but it is true and reasonable. I agree with you. There are times that we need to cut ties with people to make a room or space for growth. In addition, there would be a point in our lives that a small inner circles is better than a big groups but mere acquintances. This is an excellent write up, @ybanezkim26.
As always, thank you so much @juecoree!
I share your sentiments with regards to posting schedules. As much as I would love to be writing all the time, I guess it just can't be done right now. There is something inside me which makes me feel disheartened by lack of established habit in the platform. Then again, I try to remind myself to prioritize and to be "in the here and now - in the moment" of life which is why I want to take life slow. I will always feel a slight remorse for not writing as much as I want to but compromising or sleep should not be the way (at least for me). I do hope I can make ends meet in time.
I agree with burning bridges. In fact, you come a point in your life where you realize that a smaller pack of wolves is sometimes better than a colony of ants. If people have the same goals and aspirations and push each other to greater limits, then at times, it may be good enough.
Is it just me or we always end up thinking the same thing? Please come up with something we can disagree on. It's getting boring, you know. Hahaha.
HAHAHAHA. #t-h-e-alliance ehem ehem
Yeah! Sort of. I'm already past that point. Next please. I've moved on from that mistake. Haha
Good thoughts @ybanezkim26. I’ve been through this situation lately and I must say, it’s a very difficult decision to make.
It is and it will always be difficult. Your decision will determine the course of the relationship between you and the one in question. Cutting ties with someone who has been part of your life is extremely hard to do. I just lean into the most logical and practical thing to do.
Burn bridges if you have to. 😢👌🏼👍
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A very timely advice @ybanezkim26. Cutting ties is also setting yourself free 😀
Yes, @raquelita. Cutting ties will set yourself free and open for other opportunities like great relationships.
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