DISTANCE...! That was the issue that tore my 7 years relationship apart. I was staying in the same city with my girl before I was transfered by my company to the head office ,(9hours journey by Bus). She also got admission into tertiary institution and since then,we occasionally meet. I made sure I call her always, I send her money and made sure she didn't lack anything. I also visit her anytime I'm less busy at work but all these worked only for some time.

I began to notice changes in her. She was caring and loving but her sudden changes gave me huge concern. I asked her what was going on but she kept saying nothing. She knew the kind of person I am. I don't take things too seriously especially when I know that force won't work wonders. I kept enduring her attitude. She picks my calls when she likes. I didn't still pick quarrel with her because I already knew what could be fishing. I patiently dealt with her until she open up one day. She called me and said she was sorry.

"Please ckole, I can't pretend anymore. I'm hurting you so much and I won't like to continue this way. The reason I've been acting strange is because I'm already dating another person. I want someone close to me. I don't like the distance and I can't cope any more. I'm sorry".

I tried to convince her but all to no avail. I loved her so much. I felt empty when she left me. She told me I'm not always there when she needs my presence. Though I call daily and cater for her needs, she cherish the physical union. Talking on air isn't enough. She wanted to be true but she couldn't hold on. She's a reserved young lady. I couldn't blame her, I just learnt a lesson.

My next relationship didn't suffer just 2 kilometers distance. I never gave it a chance and it worked out fine.

Distance in a relationship is not what should be encouraged. Companionship really matters. The more you get together, the more you build the relationship. There are temptations every where. our spouse goes through series of it from attractors. We are not the only one that wants them, there are others out there that cherish them just as we do. Keeping away too far can cause the unexpected to happen.

Even a lot of Marriages has broken just because of this eight letter words "DISTANCE". Everyone has his or her manner of approaching things but all the same, If distance can be avoided, its better to stay clear of it and enjoy life with your partner.

Thanks.