One of the major undoings of a lot of people is that they want to control everything including what they cannot, and the end up being disappointed. In life, there are many things that you can control, you can focus on that. On the other hand, there are things that you do not have a direct control of, which you can accept. However, you have to know and understand the difference in what you can control and what you cannot, so that you will not progress in futility. When you know what you can control and what you cannot, it will be easier to live a more fulfilled life. Let us take a look at things that you can control and then lay them side-by-side with the things that you cannot.
The first on the list of what you can control is your attitude towards people and things. Your attitude is like a reflection of you, and you should learn how to control it. No matter what people do to you or the circumstances that come your way, you have the ability to determine how to respond or react to it. Do not allow what people do or what happens to change who you really are. On the other hand, you cannot control people's attitude and how they act towards you, neither can you control how things happen or when they will happen, so focus on what you can control - your own attitude and how you respond to people and events.
In addition to the control of attitude, you can control your inner peace and what goes on in your mind. Do what brings you peace of mind and what makes your mind settled. Of course, you have control of how you feel about things and people and what goes on in your mind. But you do not have control of how people feel about you. Do not go "overdoing" yourself just to impress people. In fact, people who already feels bad about you or who is set to find fault in you, no matter what you do, it may not change their perception of you, so do not even bother about controlling them. A lot of people will be quick to forget the 99 times that you did them good but will only remember the 1 time you did not live up to their expectations. So just learn to control what you can.
Another area that you have control of is the present. Your actions in the now can make a whole lot of difference to determine what will happen to you. If you know that you have control of the present, then you will know how to act, the decisions to take, what to say, the choices to make and what to do. You need to know that you do not have control of the past because that era has already passed. No matter how you sulk over the past, you cannot bring it back, neither can you alter it, so do not spend your energy in wishing that what happened did not happen, because it cannot be done, rather focus on the present. You do not also have much control of the future per se, however what you do today can impact on it. So what you have full control of is the present - what you do in the now, so make your actions to count.
You also have control of your own belief, your school of thought, your intentions, what motivates you, your dreams, and your aspirations. These are personal to you and you have control of how you go about them. What someone believes in should not make you to undermine your own belief - after all, two events can coexist. More so, someone's dream is their own prerequisite, so also your own dreams is yours, so do not be bothered about the dream that someone has or what someone wants to achieve, but rather focus on your own and give it the required actions in order for it to be fulfilled.
The final area that you can control, which you should also focus on is the friends you make. Your friends have very significant roles to play in what happens to you, so you should not be careless about your friends. As a matter of fact, you can determine your friends and if someone does not impact you positively, then you can change them as friends. You cannot change your friend as a person, that is, you cannot change their personality, but you can change them as friends. That is, you can choose to either be friends with them or not.
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