Some people have a mentality that they exist by accident and the reason why they feel that way is not in any way their fault and the reason why I say it is not their fault is that they are basically acting based on the belief of what they have heard about themselves.
Circumstances That Make People Feel That They Exist By Accident.
There are certain circumstances that may make people feel that they exist by accident and one of the major reason is when they are been told by their parents that they have decided not to produce any child again when he or she came around, when Parents continually say this it could produce a bad impression on the mind of the child that he or she is existing by accident.
Another reason that could make someone feel this way is when things appear not to work out well, when things appear to be really tight, when things appear to be difficult, a person might begin to think that maybe his existence is faulty and probably something is wrong with him or her.
Constant re occurrence of evil happenings, failure and misfortune have a great power over the life of an individual and he may begin to think that maybe his existence is a mistake.
When someone as an appearance that is not really attractive and people tend to move away from the person for that reason, it could begin to give a bad impression on the person’s mind, thereby making him feel bad and he might begin to ask questions about why he was created unattractive like others who look more attractive.
Some individuals have the power to frustrate someone by moving away from the person, probably because the person was born with an ailment or maybe because the person has a type of disorder. Segregation could make one feel really bad.
The Solution To The Problem
What I feel about this whole situation is that you are the only person who has the power to make yourself feel bad or intimidated.
I am pretty sure that the statement I made above might not sound convincing enough, it might sound like something you have heard over and over again, but the only time that a positive change can occur in your life is when you give chance for a change to occur.
I don’t know if that makes any sense to you, but I will try my best to make it sound better as much as I can.
You have to know that no matter how pretty, classy and experienced you are, there are some people who will not accept your personality and one thing that kills us the most is that we want everyone to love and support our decisions which is totally impossible.
The first step to take is to believe in yourself, belief in the fact that you can become a better person, despite your flaws and whatever might be happening around you, you can still change some things.
The second step is to become open to positive changes, so many people remain at the level they are because they feel that whatever they know is the correct thing and nobody else can change who they are or what they believe in. Yes, it is really good to hold on to what you believe but sometimes when it is obvious that it is going to be a positive change, a trial is never a bad idea.
The most important thing you have to do is to totally change your idea about the fact that you are a mistake, remove that thought totally from your mind. Whatever you harbor and dwell on has a great power over you and constantly dwelling on the fact that you might be a mistake is no way a good idea.
The moment you start seeing yourself as a success, success has no other option than to come to you and when you see yourself as a mistake you will definitely remain one, the way you see yourself and carry yourself determines to a great extent what happens to you.
Change your mind about being a mistake and begin to picture yourself as the best among the best.
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Yes we should reamain positive whatever may be the condition in our life. Thanks for motivation.
thanks a lot for coming around and reminding us that positivism is the key to any condition.
It's as if this topic is about me, but sometimes I just feel the things happening around me could be that I was the wrong semen to fertilize the egg... thanks for the encouragement.
You the boss. Keep hope alive.
Thank you. :)
I had to read all, failure has a way of making us feel something is not right. But like you rightly pointed out, only when we refuse to be defined by the Jones and Joneses of this world would we be able to make a lot of things happen. I think staying away from people who consistently put us down is another way to go about it. Some are known to put you down to feel better; that is a miserable life to live. The Ph.D. (pull him/her down) crew, they derive joy when they have succeeded in breaking you. Funny enough, it does not improve their lot in life. Believing in oneself is the greatest gift of all, give your middle finger to critics and hold your head high and do your thing! Thank you.
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That moment when a person give up on him/herself , i will say the person is sick mentally, the only cure is by unlocking the wring mindset and start putting up some good job. Any time i hear people say any negative thing about me, i have always use it as drive never to be in thesame position.
Usually, we frame our kind of future by the multitudes of thoughts we engage in. The result of these thoughts to a large extent influences the kinds of result we get. Therefore, the focus should be to pay attention to what we engage our thoughts on. A positive mind will produce positive results. Remember, you cant attract what you attack. Even in the midst of contending situations, painted as evil and addressed to you, yes, it may be an issue in reality but the good news is nothing bad/ evil report comes to stay, that is not an end, knowing full well its a phase, better days lie ahead. Believe in Yourself first, believe in your strenght and be optimistic even in daunting situations. Have you ever believed in something before in Life, and it worked just as you set your heart to it positively, simply apply this principle to other Life's issues and positive results will roll in.
The love we show ourselves sums up to the love we get from others. So no matter the situation, think of yourself as unique and someone waiting to be a miracle in someone else's life. God does not make mistakes.
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Thanks for the motivation. Whatever happens you push forward