Hello, dear Steemians!
How can we influence other people to make the right choice and live a better life? Often enough, we see people who could really use some thoughtful improvement, but they would refuse the advance of our thoughts regarding their life.
What do you do in a situation like that?
I remember that I once had a friend who really needed to shake things up in his life and turn the page, but he refused to listen to my advice. Years went by and still he couldn’t bring himself to listen to my words and take heed of my wisdom.
Not that I was particularly wise, but I did know what I was talking about, and I had been in the place where he was. What I learned from that experience is that things are easier said that done, as the old saying goes.
If you want to influence others in life, or really yearn for a change in the way of society, you need to first learn how to change your own perspective and actions. People do not want to hear about success, they want to see success.
When we take a look at the human nature, we begin to realize that over-the-top view hardly ever works and preaching will not get you anywhere. However, you can become a role model of a healthy and successful life.
You can become a role model for aspiring dreamers. Only then will you start to truly influence their lives and change their mindset.
How do we know this about human nature?
Imagine a child whose parents are always shouting instructions at him and growing him with a set of principles that are always explained by the way of words.
That child might go on to show stubbornness to their orders and resist against their instructions. The psychological reason behind this is that the child cannot fathom the consequences and results of following their orders.
He cannot wreathe meaning and logic to their words, and that is why he decides to not listen to them.
Were the parents to simply show him how he must behave or make decisions, and were he to simply see the outcome of this wisdom, he would decide to follow it inadvertently and without direct confrontation.
That is the same about influencing all the other people who are in your life. When you preach about what success means and how one can achieve it, your audience will only have your words for comprehension, but when they actually see it, they will start to take you and your words much more seriously.
People follow actions, not words. Actions inspires, while words simply gratify. If you want to influence other people and their lives, make a change in your own life and let yourself become an embodiment of that change.
Achieve success, and see how all those who are around you will be inspired by your words and actions to take steps for their own lives.
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Great post!
Thanks for your excellent article, people will request you to know your secret how you have succeed in your life not only that they will request you to guide them to be as you. thanks.
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most people only see something from the results without anyone being able to see what the process is like, that's what makes it difficult for people to succeed. they only look at one side without caring about the other side. we just try to help people move their hearts, but no matter how much motivation the other person gives, there is no benefit if there is no motivation for himself or herself
Great comment @agustraderfx1
The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do.
Don’t be scared to fly high, ’cause it will inspire others.
Become the initiator, serve other people without expecting them to do the same. If you start giving without expecting anything in return, you will see people complimenting and connecting with your work in no time.
Sometimes this phrase ºººYou Inspire Meººº makes a lot of movements in people who need just an inspiration, it is not an action, this is a simple word, but it can be convert an action because other people could be motivated by you...!!!
Incredible @chbartist ...!!!
While it is often true that we teach better by example, as a teacher and a parent I can tell you that our advices are not always followed or even noticed, even when they come with practice and examples.
There are many variables involved in someone not following or listening to the voice of experience. From simple blind stubborness to low self-esteem or shame.
That does not change the fundamental principle, though. It is better when our ethos allows us to show-don't-tell.
I've seen countless times parents trying to demand order or discipline from their children when they are uncapable of even being on time for a parents-teacher conference.
In any case, it is ultimately up to each individual to listen to an advice and make significant changes in their life. Sometimes people end up listening to the "least authorized" voice. WHo cares, as long as they listen and change.
Dear @hlezama
I always enjoy reading such a mature comments.
Keep up with good work :) Steemit indeed needs more people as responsive and supportive as you are.
Yours
Piotr
Thanks, man. I appreciate it.
@chbartist sir!
Our tendencies are the symbol of our character which is clearly seen in the activities of our behavior or daily life. Human tendency is the most difficult task to understand. The way in which the last post week argued arguments about the identity of confidant and treacherous persons and it is very difficult to find ways to identify them. Understanding the human tendencies in the exact same way has always been always a menstrual question because it is not written on anyone's forehead that the person is of a wicked nature. Even in living in society, we can detect trends in its gestures. The strange irony is that the person runs behind success while they have the most needed skills. Before changing the attitude of other people, we need to change our attitude and thinking, because preaching is easy but it is very difficult to follow.
Goodnight
Definitely I agree with what you indicate, people are influenced, when they see that person who wants to influence her, as an example to follow.
There are many people who want to inspire others, but, simply, they are not the example in which they want to see other people. To give a simple and even cruel example, I have observed people who work as sellers of food products. They help you lose weight and try to sell the product, but you see that the seller is overweight, the prospective buyer does not see it as an example to follow and they stop buying it.
When we want to be an example for other people, we must profess the example and, with that, in addition to our ability to influence others, we can convince others
Another great and mature comment @rafaelj25
I love to see how responsive you are. Steemit indeed needs more people like you. Keep up with good work :)
Yours
Piotr
thank you very much friend, greetings.
Really like what you have to say here.
To me, children wouldn't necessarily choose to follow their parents who do right, they would just follow, without an active "choice," because they knew nothing else.
With that being said, I think that allowing ourselves to view the world through the eyes of our inner child will give us an entirely new and awakening experience. We have the potential to make day-to-day life much more enriching for ourselves by slowing down our thought process, and like you said, @chbartist, through making daily change. It's never too late to start becoming our greatest versions!!(: Thank you for your inspiring post.
Another great and mature comment @painting.peonies
I love to see how responsive you are. Steemit indeed needs more people like you. Keep up with good work :)
Yours
Piotr
That's right ... we must be the reflection of what we are talking about, the reflection of what we preach. It happened to me very often, if I seek advice from someone, it is because I have seen the result in that person.
I have encountered many people like that. I just thought those people were stuck in their mindset of not allowing others to influence their decisions on things. Actions really do speak louder than words since actions reinforce the words we speak. I believe words alone cannot convince most people no matter how eloquent and/or wise it sounds.
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Saludos @chbartist! En función a lo expuesto, debemos tener presente, que con una actitud pasiva no generaremos los mismos resultados que podríamos obtener si fuéramos proactivos.
Para poder enseñar, primero debemos ser maestros, debemos prepararnos y conocer del tema, y con la experiencia, desarrollar planteamientos que den valor agregado, esto en función al trabajo desarrollado, construyendo liderazgo con hechos, demostrando que podemos ser referencia a seguir.
I definitely agree on your point of view, As I heard a phrase 'If you want the change be the change' and yes if we truly wants to be an influence and wants to inspire others we need to be successful and wiser on our actions and words.
Keep up with amazing content.
What you said reminded me of the quote by Ghandi, "Be the change you want to see in the world".
It's hard to give people advice without physically following it ourselves, as we then make ourselves a hippocrite! Very awesome comment(:
Thank you:)
Actions speak louder than words and will provide leaders the fuel to achieve goals with engaging teams as long as they are lead through the path together and motivating them along the way.
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Yeah, action speaks louder than words.
When you say a word, an air of life penetrates inside your throat and a voice will came out forming your mouth correspond to that word, then releasing the air of life and spreading it with much penetration inside the ear of a living, kinda energy so to speak.
Action is the result of this energy performed in perfect completion.
Thus, we could not underestimate the power of words.
Dear @ronel
I always enjoy reading such a mature comments.
Keep up with good work :) Steemit indeed needs more people as responsive and supportive as you are.
Yours
Piotr
hahaha good one @ronel
I bet you're not as pretty looking as this blondie :)
yours
Piotr
In order to influence a person, we must be an example for this.
Hardly, a person who does not comply with certain qualifiers, could influence another.
If you, as the head of a company, want to influence your employees to achieve the established objectives, you must be able to solve the different problems that may arise for each employee, only then, they will see you as a person to follow
Dear @lvyr
Very good point. Indeed really good point.
Cheers, Piotr
Hummus nature following other than most people especially aspire a successful person for a successful life and career.
I agree with you Beautiful thought sir I also follow my daddy he was my first role model but my present successful life I following my father in law he was aspire me real great successful person.
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Dear @chbartist
As always amazing piece of work buddy. Kind of content every leader and wanna-be-leader should read carefuly.
Keep up with great work.
Yours
Piotr
No one learn with words outside but explained with the example, we can help other.. It is easier to show with fact how to get to the success. Even though learned a lot with our own mistakes that with the advice of others, but only have to valorarlos when they come from people with experience and success. Be much that is little our success, knowing how to explain show level of success must be tested facts.
Greetings
this could help content creators understanding there values for there audience in short and long term, as always thanks for inspiration and knowledge friend, its good to listen from a person with wisdom
Thanks for sharing this post.i like it this post.great post 👍
My role model my father I always following my isuccessful life gift my father.
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Beautiful community. thanks for sharing this post..
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Unfortunately, I have experienced a similar situation. Some people are unwilling to change even after they hear sound advice. I once had a friend who was experiencing "girl troubles," and he would always act very erratic and rude whenever she was around as a hope of getting her attention. I would always tell him that he should calm down and approach her like a normal human being. But of course, he kept doing things his way. He only stopped after the girl went off on him, and he fell into a spell of depression. This was several years ago. As far as I know, they are cool with each other now. I guess I wasn't really giving advice on a serious situation, but that's what I wanted to share. Lol.
The principle is achieve, inspire and make a difference..
very good
Good advice
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Very useful your post, dear @chbartist. As an inhabitant of a country like Venezuela that has been functioning inadequately, I completely agree with what you say about the importance of the actions. This is true in both positive and negative behaviors. Here we see a group of politicians who talk about humanism, socialism, solidarity, but their actions are directed in the opposite direction, that is, theft, abuse, pickpocketing. And, of course, this is how a good part of the population behaves. The bad example is easy to follow.
That is why, as you say, in order to change a social group or a country, it is essential to act properly. It is very true that: "If you want to influence other people and their lives, make a change in your own life and let yourself become an embodiment of that change.
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You guys are actually the best! Actions speak louder than words, you are sticking to your plans and excelling! Thanks for all the hard work.
Today I have heard twice that the best thing to do to change the other is to change ourselves. We live our lives trying to make the people around us different, be kind, respectful, supportive, happy and we do not realize that many times we are the opposite.
I think we should see the other not to criticize him, advise him, guide him, but to see what we should learn from his attitudes, ways of thinking and acting.
We love to preach, because it is easier to act coherently according to our principles. It is very difficult and that is why we spend all the energy talking and criticizing others.
The change is in each one of us. Our being is the one that needs to be transformed, so we will see how the world will turn in consonance with the just, the sublime, the honest.
Thanks @chbartist
I like your post. And i agree about it. Hope to get my dreams and inspire my community
yeahh agree with that walk the talk is an expression our life example for other
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