This is multi multi multi layer problem and it's long story how to explain all the issues here. But, in the end it is so simple...what is your heart tells you? That is core of the problem, they detached us from perception from our heart to perception from mind. Mind is that which is delusional, not our heart. Mind believe in divions of whatever, so if you fall in perception of mind you will see division and more easily be manipulated. One of delusions of mind is myth of authority. That state of being when you think you must obey something, in this case pathetic orders, that all is coming from mind delusional beliefs. All the bullshit in this world exist because of delusions of mind. When we come out from perception of mind in to perception from heart everything will change!
Is it so hard to love?
People have been mind controlled through the "education" system to learn not to Love. Most people don't even love themselves (because they don't know Who and What they Really are), hence the intense and ubiquitous pathology we currently see in the world.
You're exactly right. We need to learn to Love ourSelf again and that starts with Knowing the Self.
"Heed these words, You who wish to probe the depths of nature: If you do not find within yourself that which you seek, neither will you find it outside. In you is hidden the treasure of treasures. Know Thyself and you will know the Universe and the Gods."
Delphi Oracle
I completely agree. In the end there is no outside. Everything is projection of our inner state. If you want to have peace, be peaceful. Wars are just projections of our inner disharmony.