Thank You for your courageous post on your experimenting in this regard. Since the internet has tended to be rife with yuk associations with any keywords related to sexuality, it is not the easiest terrain to venture into. But it is bold and important and I champion you in your exploration!
#orgasm ~ I have just one correlating experience in my archives that is evoked in the reading of your post. It's from way back upon first meeting my Now Love. He and I delighted to hike together in the Redwoods.. all day sometimes. He was stoked that I could match him stamina-wise. Then one evening when we were laying together after just such a mega-hike, he was stroking my calf and said with amazement, "Wow, you are such a strong hiker, but you are not 'in' your calves at all?!" He was right, and nobody had ever pointed that out before, least of all me. My calves were completely flaccid and we could see, once we were both focused on this phenomenon, that I had over-developed shin muscles, to compensate. Why though??!! And right there and then I flashed on my own mother's calves....[chronically swollen thrombosis agony]...; "Grief! That's what it is; I'm carrying my mother's grief, in my calves!!" It was such an epiphany and stunning to identify heretofore entirely hidden (something 'right under my nose').
We, in our field of #love were able to identify and articulate that I had literally withdrawn, withdrawn life force, withdrawn from my calves, due to that immense unresolved and seemingly unresolvable pain [we had all believed]. So Now, Here & Now, how might I re-enter my calves with a new relationship, a new awareness? And we distilled the answer as though it was the most natural thing in the world (it was!); I would be proactively and lovingly and with deliberate intent to restore wholeness, driving my orgasms directly into my calves. I did and my calves responded, thirsty as a dry riverbed, just as if someone had removed the dam upstream, and the liquid life force could flood back in. Immense joy, immense relief.. {heaven / heavensent}