The first step to ensure long life healthy relationship is to just become the love without having the need to be loved. This is not something impossible and it comes by nature to everyone. But due to our faltered perception we assumed that to be just loving is expensive or impossible without expectation.
Love is not Grandiosity
Love is not as what you see in the social media or advertisements, people don’t just run together with their girlfriend along the beach with a hovering drone or people are not always proposing to their girlfriend with pink diamonds or expensive handbags. We have been subconsciously tuned by this contents to have the perception that love is purely about grandiosity in expressing love.
No this perception is not true. Things are not like that, diamonds will not glue her to you, it will only glue her to more diamonds. So if there are not commitments involved, she just might have that person with unlimited supply of diamonds. This sounds, so wrong and this article is not to undermine girls but rather to bring clarity that expression of love through materials is not what girls are looking forward in a sincere love. Not only girls, but also boys.
It is nothing wrong, to give valuable items as such, but that alone is not enough for everlasting relationship.
Diamonds glue her to more diamonds not YOU!!
It is rather your charisma, creativity and your consistency of the passion, intimacy and commitments what gels her to you forever. Only this!
You can't climb up love you can only "Fall in love"
It might sound not easy to be consistently in love and not to expect something in return but this is what you are promising by saying “I fall love in her”. Referring to the word “fall” is the best word to relate to that experience. Why fall? Why not climb? Fall here bring the meaning of giving up some your current status/ego just to accommodate her. So basically it is about you giving up some part of yourself to give importance to her. It is about giving. Being in love is about give give give give without expectation, and while you do that, you should enjoy. Then and only then you would sustain a healthy joyful relationship lifelong.
Is it even possible? It is! It comes by nature to us (human). With absolute involvement, you will notice you will outburst with care without any expectation. Parents love to their baby, there are nothing to be expected from the baby but it is our nature to love and burst with care when we are fully involved with the baby. It so unfortunate we have dismissed our self with such a innate character of us, most human being are able to only give their emotion only to person who will provide physical or material satisfaction. It is time we understand that we can have very profound relationship without having to do with the physical body.
Being love, is to outburst with care without expectation by simply being involved.
5 simple steps to give you a start on that:
Being involved with yourself, this is basically the first thing to do. You should love yourself to the max and become always fulfilled else you will employ your partner to do that (this wont go right as well). Try meditation, nature fondling, photography or become backpacker. Meet your success.
Bring in a lot of positivity to your life (read listen and practice about positivity, surround with positive people) create a twitter account and follow this people (do step below) then read every morning.
Twitter Boost : 1. Create a Twitter account & Install Twitter App 2. What is your favorite topic? (Relationship, money, parenting, fashion, etc..) 3. Google top ten people to follow in twitter on "[Your favorite topic]" 4. Follow this people 5. Scroll your twitter account read it and try to put it to work.
Practice giving, start by helping others without expecting anything. Do it today, just give, don't have to justify yourself whether the people you plan to give is deserved or not. Practice to give money, things, used & usable stuff. You will be baffled with how the nature brings back your good deed back to you.
Love for what she is, and not for what she can bring for you (social status, physical satisfaction). This will bring lot of assumption and not fulfilling will breakdown the relationship.
Educate her/him with the same perspective on love (Share with her/him this article.)
With this simple steps, with consistency, will allow you to outburst with love. Your commitment is very important.
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