Oh darling, this is such a testament to your thoughtful consideration of other people. It's no one's fault and least of all not yours. However, if the person is reaching out and telling you these things, it's so kind of you to listen, and consider everything from all angles rather than outright reject what they've done. This is the more mature and more human way forward - so lovely. Relationships are hard, and take so much work, they really do, and so much nurturing. xx