Blame Game

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here.So, I made this in the comment section of @ehiboss' post. If you haven't read his post, i won't repeat what he already posted about, so please read it

I don't make my comments into posts, but i felt we should all learn from this and also give his post more visibility because we could all learn one or two from it. He is a big man hahaha and I love when people are objective.

"We mostly play the blame game most of the time. Many people automatically see ladies as being right, even after hearing explanation from the guy.

I have a friend in this too. The lady changed and gave the most ridiculous excuse ever. My friend discussed with some of his own friends and her friends, and all they could say was, my friend is faulty and I told him to ask them why and how, but they couldn't give any reason. One friend even said the lady sacrificed three years of her life (they dated three years), and I told him again to ask, how and why? Sacrificed what? What can she point to, that this guy did? If he did anything, was she logical enough to give him a chance to change, at least, did she leave room for communication, to at least let this guy know what he has been doing wrong?. (Added: is relationship not about sacrifices? Are they not in love? Do you throw a baby away with bath water?).

Few days after she told me (because I asked her too what the guy did and all she could say was, I just need a break), she needed a break, she was seen with an engagement ring.

I told him to tell those friends who accused him of causing what he didn't know of, to explain the logic behind that, all they could say again was that, this guy didn't fight for her. Whaaaaat?. Relationship is all about communication. If you wouldn't communicate your feeling to your partner, how do you expect him or her to make it right?

All I could see here was, she only needed an excuse to leave my friend, and in this case, we are still looking for the excuse for her, because there was none...at least none that she spoke or communicated about, because this guy reached out, he called me to speak with her and I did, and he didn't fight for her?"

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Most of the times, for our coward acts, we always find the easy way out and throw the blame game. We always see ladies as being right when relationships are concerned and the guy is usually the guilty one. Let us stop doing that. Do not make a mistake, I am not taking sides and i won't, because i like being objective and I will tell you whether you are a guy or a lady, if you are the one at fault.

Communicate your feelings, and if the person is not heeding, and it is affecting the state of your heart, or making you not enjoy your relationship, then you can walk away, but at least tell the person what he or she did wrong.

As I type this, the lady only told me she needed space, and that was what she told that my friend too, till now, she never told the guy they are over, and now she is with another.

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