We have to make so many quick judgments in the course of every day that, unfortunately, we cannot avoid succumbing to stereotypes. For example, you are driving on a freeway and see and an old lady driving in the next line. Surely, she might happen to be a good driver after all, but you instinctively speed up to let other people find out if that so.
As for being afraid of collective ridicule… It’s one thing if you respect and value the people who render the judgment. This being the case you can pay attention to the critical judgment and make appropriate adjustments. However, if the judgment is rendered by some arbitrary people, who you have no interest about and no real respect… In that regard let me tell you a little funny story…
One professor went to a Zoo and was feeding candies to monkeys. As long as cadies lasted, monkeys were happy and cheerful. However, as soon as the bag with candies became empty, monkeys got angry and started very quickly the professor was covered in their spit. The professor could get angry or humiliated, but he chose to just laugh at this incident. After all, can you relay be mad at monkeys?