Wasn´t it the Buddha who said,
"Hating someone is like drinking poison
and hoping the other person will die."?
One would think, that loving is so much easier than hating,
but apparently people find it easier to hate than to love
and I can only imagine that this is because they have more self-hate than self-love inside of them.
To be able to truly love other people you must love yourself first,
because otherwise this so-called love is only a projection of one´s needs onto other people, who will never be able to fully fulfill it anyway.
But if you hate someone, they will always be able to fulfill your needs.
so true @likedeeler
Very good point about self hate and being able to love yourself first. In situation where people are taught hate as a form of love... I can't imagine how screwed up inside they must be.
That particular quote is very hard to trace, I tried. He did say something very similar about resentment. But nonetheless true. - I wanted to add that the people who killed young Matthew were also young and one was female. They were over 18 but still very young. I imagine they were raised in a climate where racism, intolerance and homophobia thrive and is normalized how else could three young people come to decide this was a good thing to do unless they were taught it.
There is always the odd violent psychopath where their minds are not right from birth but this was not that. We sadly dealt with that in my hometown recently where a young man brutally murdered a young child. This happened too close to me and my friends. Yes his childhood was not great, but it wasn't horrible either. He was raised around good people. I have to think those are two separate kinds of issues. Sorry off track a bit. Memories still raw.