Recently, I have thought about my dreams and asked myself a lot of times. Should I pursue my dreams? If I give up everything to pursue my dreams, what will I risk? How many obstacle must I overcome when pursuing dreams?
As mentioned in some previous posts, I graduated from law university with an excellent degree. Now I am working as assistant in law firm to become a real lawyer. I think that is my dream. Being a lawyer. It must be great, right? But now, I have to consider about being a DA what my parents almost forced me to do. Honestly, DA is really good job, especially in Vietnam. I will write about how state agencis in Vietnam work and what a Vietnamese DA will do in next post (This is one of main reasons makes me dont want to be a DA). Being a DA is the best for me, at least in my parents' point of view. But, I just want to be a lawyer.
I tried to convince my parents how great a lawyer would be. But they dont believe I can survive if I keep being a lawyer assistant, or even a lawyer. You know, it will be a hardest time - the first 3 years of being lawyer. Because salary scale is too low. It is not enough to me survive in a city like Hanoi. And my parents have to keep providing me with money. That is why they dont want me do it anymore and force me to go back home and being a DA. Otherwise, they dont care anymore, I must survive by myself. Yeah. There are too many obstacles, but biggest obstacle is money. I cant be a lawyer if I dont have money to survive, to keep learning in Judicial Academy.
And you know what, if I dont have any money, I may lose my friends, even boyfriend because I will be leaning on them. Society will look upon me and think "You are only worth how much money you have". My parents, just sometimes, will talk about some one who is son or daughter of their friend, the same age with me and already reached success. And make me feel bad enough. Some one may ask if I am having a midlife crisis and then...what should I say. All of these concerns result from belief systems I was given by someone else: my parents, teachers, friends, neighbors,... etc. But the real question I have to ask myself is "What do I believe?" "Who I am if I dont follow my dreams?? "
I start to change the way I think by telling myself that my parents was wrong. I am capable of designing my own life without working a job I dont want. I am capable of discovering what makes me feel good, strong, happy, excited,... I realise what makes me happy is actually what I am good at. It is a matter of what I want. Being a lawyer to enjoy the feelling when finding out some mistakes of contracts, detecting the way to help clients avoid potential risks, ... enjoy the free life of lawyer or being a DA and stuck in some where with corruption??? What is better? I got it.
A dream without action will remain a dream. A dream that motivates an action has the opportunity to become a reality!!
I should say thank you with some one who always proud of me even though I am nothing, encourage me whenever I feel disappointed about myself.
"Thank you. You make me want to enjoy my life more and more. You are my strongest motivation."
This is really important dilemma in our lives. I think we, as humans should support people who want to follow dreams, because that's the only way to improve our world. If someone wants to be engineer, just let him/her be. Don't restrict them from their dreams.
But life is difficult sometimes, so it doesn't give what we want to us. We will struggle in our lives many times that we can't even count. But don't let it put obstacles in your way. Tell your family that you want to be independent, but say thanks to them for everything they did for you. But if you want something for real and if you have problem about money, you should keep working all the time. Never give up on your dreams but keep working hard as well. And do it like an honourable person, don't choose bad way like some people choose to gain money, gambling for example.
And if you really want to do something in your life, just give up on unnecessary things that you usually do. For example, if you drink a lot, try to restrict it. If you like buying new clothes, try new things, try to combine clothes differently for example.
Those are my suggestions, you don't have to do them of course. But always look for other options in your life. I hope you will be happy with your choice.
You know. Your comment is the most meanning I have ever read in my posts since I join in steemit. It make me feel some sympathies. Thank for your advice. I think it is useful, i will try to do it. Try my best.
I always visit your blog because you inspires me. Do what you do. Thank you very much for sharing inspiring content.
Thank you. I just write about my life, my thought, my opinions,... I have just checked your blog. I will follow you to see more your post.
Cố lên em ơi.. làm gì cũng phải có đam mê em ạ. Mà nói chung là làm con ở VN là khổ thế đấy, sống cho bố mẹ người thân xong mới được sống cho mình 😒
Bố mẹ nuôi ăn học xong rồi. Giờ lại phải tiếp tục chu cấp cho em "theo đuổi đam mê". :)) thấy thất vọng lắm chị ơi. Bố mẹ thì suốt ngày "chỉ cho đường sướng mà k biết sướng" . Nhiều khi đúng là không biết nên sống sao. :))))
Nice to see you on here and our SE Asia steemit group @hanggggbeeee! Upvoted and resteemed. Lets keep this going. Cheers!
Thank a lot. Lets make our community keep growing 😍
im on board one hundred percent. You all have my support no matter what! lets share this region with the world together! : - )
Co len em oi!!
Who is em??
làm gì cũng phải có đam mê em ạ. Mà nói chung là làm con ở VN là khổ thế đấy, sống cho bố mẹ người thân xong mới được sống cho mình
Hahaa. You should comment by yourself. Dont copy and paste.
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