Hello Steemit friends ..🤗I am 18 years old, I am a freshman of a university .. Today I do not want to write a blog, this post as a diary that I want to keep a memory.. I would also like people to read my article and give me some advice. One of you, someone like my parents age, so I look forward to your objective advice!! .
I'm having some problems in my life. I do not know how to choose. What should I do?
My lover is 9 years older than me. He is an adult, very talented, and kind. he always loves and caring for me, he is a good man, i am happy because i have good love. We have been in love for over a year. He was the one who took me to Steemit, and told me Bitcoin, ETH, ...In Vietnam in particular and the countries in the East in general, the 27-year-old man is married and has children. His parents and family, he desires to marry a wife to quickly give birth and stabilize the work. But I'm very young, I love him so much, but I do not know if I should get married? When i was 18.. 😢
If i married him now
*I do not enjoy playing in my youth.. i can hardly go out with friends, or make up and wear nice clothes to travel. By that time I need to take care of my family. . I do not have any experience in the couple's life .. and I'm afraid when I get married my husband , I can not go to school anymore .. he said: "you marry me, you still get go to college ,,, i will give money to you to study "..
I know, he can provide me and he will let me go to school .. But I'm afraid of his family .. Maybe everyone will force me to have a baby, and I have to drop out of school ... because if Childbirth, I have the responsibility to take care of my child.
I love him .. That story, only my mother and his family know .. My father is very backward ..he will hardly accept this. He wants me to go to college and I go to work, new to get married ..😪If my dad knew I was going to get married, he would be very shocked.Sure my father will make me stop this love.
Talking about my love, he said I do not need to worry, he will do it for me .. He will take care of family, make money for me to study .. He is determined to marry me and want me to become his wife. He is very good, if I leave him, I will be very hurt. Missing his love, I will miss the happiness!!
Between love and career, what would you choose? Do you listen to reason or heart?
I'm also scared that I'm living in these young days, I married him, my whole life will be with him, love him and take care of this little family...
I'm young and I'm afraid I have crazy and foolish thoughts..
I have heard the words in a book: "Love that comes together is love
Love that does not come together is the youth "
.. And my youth, I live in the happy months .. About the future, I do not know how to solve it ..
THE END
By: @a-alice
Thank for reading ❤️
I'm not a good blogger, what I bring to people is my thoughts on life!
if you already asking yourself this question, you have the answer ;) Take your time first to know WHO you are and WHAT YOU want and what is GOOD FOR YOU...Upvoted and resteemed ! All the best !!
Thank you for your comment ❤️❤️❤️
If your man is really serious, you won't have to choose between carrier and love... If you have to, maybe is not that... You (and even he) are young, so I think there is no need to hurry... Good luck for the right decision!
Thank you.. 😢 He wants to marry me after 3 months .. I do not know what to do 😓
Sorry to saying that but I think is love not about hurry and obligation but is about freedom and opportunities... So, I have to say yo should not get married at the moment... :( He has to understand this. Anyway, what is his reason about the fast marriage? But, pls don't be said, life is beautiful and even sad things have their inner hapiness, just found it. ;) Back to the marriage, It's just my subjective opinion, you should listen to yourself. Decision is only yours!!!
Thank you for your advice .. 🤗
Not at all! ;)
live together for a few years first
Unfortunately! country is very backward. And people do not accept living together for a few years without marriage = _ = I just hope my country is as modern as your country is living
I think you are too young to get married. You need to experience life before are stuck with one person. I got married at 30 and I still think I was too young !!
I think you should get married at the age of 30 haha. Where you live anyone does not force you to get married. However, in my backward country .. Many girls get married at the age of 16, while boys are 20 years old. 😂
I live in Australia and we can get married whenever we are ready. I think your country has ancient rules. I am sorry for your situation 😫
I like Australia very much. Your country is very developed and there are kangaroo haha 😂
Thank you ☺ I am grateful to live in Australia. It is a wonderful country
I want my country to leave the backward.
NO!
Lol
@dang007
What funny about it ? 😂
it funny to me when he just say no.
@dang007
-.- So what do you think about my problem?
i didnt know u have a problem girl, im not marry so i dont know, i have never been marry so i dont know, i dont have any kid so dont know that either.
@@ oh !!! How old are you?
Why not 😫? @joe.nobel
You are too young. Go to University. Open your mind. Gain a larger perspective on life. Then decide what you want to do for the entire rest of your life.
To be honest, too early for you to marry. You have not really see how is the world operating. You will change you mind in every aspect when you go out and work. If he do love you, he can always wait for you.
😢 thank you for your advice. I want to hear more from you. I worry a lot about my love ..
In your country, how often do people get married when they are old?
You haven't even discovered yourself yet.
The thing about marriage vows is people can change, even when they do not know it.
When you discover what you want to do with your life, would he still love you?
Marriage should NEVER be forced. It won't be marriage if it's forced. I'd run away if anyone tries to force me.
People get married early there, that's fine. Unless you dont have other goals. You need to remember that having a child means giving up ur dreams for your child's dreams.
Sorry for talking too long
😢 thank you for your advice. I want to hear more from you. I worry a lot about my love ..
I agree with almost everyone, wait and get to know your lover before you marry.
Live with him, get to know his habits, his faults and all of his good points.
Thanks for your comment!
We have been in love for over a year. In Vietnam, a backward country, we are not allowed to live together if not married. That's bad! Lol 😂
I'm almost 33, Alice, which could be considered old by your terms. I met my current wife when I was 20 and I've been with her ever since. However, we only married when we were 27.
You know what? Marriage doesn't change anything in a relationship. It's just a legal binding - you can be in love with a person and spend a lifetime with them without being married. Simply marrying somebody doesn't mean that you love them more or they love you more or anything.
But if you do get married, make sure you are ready for this. Make sure you can stand up to living with that person 24/7. Because getting OUT of a marriage is more difficult than getting in :)
My take? You're still way too young to consider getting married. Spend a few more years with your current partner, maybe experience moving together if you haven't done so already. I'd say that only after living with somebody for one year, under the same roof, you'll know if you are are ready or not for the next step :)
I like your country, it does not care about not being married and living together in the house. In a country as backward as my country, people only allow to live together when married ... You love someone 7 years and married? I admire you very much! Your love is enormous!
I'm from a sh**y country as well, so I totally understand what you're saying. Sometimes, you just have to ignore what others say and believe and do what is best for you. Countries and mentalities won't change unless people change... sometimes one at a time. Good luck though with your choice, let's hope you'll make the best choice no matter what it will be.
Lấy chồng đi em ơi. Còn chưa cưới thì đợi hai năm nữa. Vào tuổi 20 là vừa.
😂duy nhất anh là ủng hộ e cưới đấy haha.
Mà sao a biết e cùng người Việt?
A ở nước ngoài nên cũng hiểu tâm hồn xã hội một chút.
Nhìn thấy là biết....
Ui thích thế. E còn chưa dc đi nc ngoài bao giờ
I understand the culture of the country you live in is strict, but can you choose what you really want without having to worry about what other people want? They cannot live your life. You can never make other people happy, that is an illusion. Only try to do right for yourself and you will choose right 💜
Thank you. So if I want to get married now, do you think I have the right choice? ❤️
First off, it is good that you are thinking about it and not rushing into anything.
You are just out of school and just starting college and have much of a new life to experience yourself in that alone. One year is not a very long time to really get to know someone. Personally I think you should see how college goes for a while. Starting a family really takes up most of your time, especially when you have children.
Since he is older, he has 9 years longer to experience things in life and I think if you rush into it, you may regret it later... If he really cares about you, he will understand, whatever your choice is... It is your choice.
You really do not want to get married because of pressure from others, that can only end badly I would think.
Then again, I could be wrong however I am speaking with some experience in the matter. :)
Oh... I don't think your dad is actually backwards on this as much as he loves you and is concerned about your future.. any father would be and will be the same when you have children... but, the sooner you do have children the sooner "you" will have to worry about things like that. ; )
Oh, and on a funny note.. based on my experience I certainly would not get married unless I was old enough to drink hard liquor... you may need it. lol
haha! I have never even had a drink liquor!! 😂
Marriage will fix that.. rofl.
Thank you for giving me advice. My country is almost married pretty soon. In rural areas the age of marriage is 16. But with today's modern society people focus on work and they get married late.
How old are you??
I believe the experience from you, I am also glad you have read my article. He has read this post of mine, and he is sad 😢 haizz. I'm also really confused
Actually there is no right or wrong answer to your question and only time has that answer.
Either choice really becomes what you make of it I guess. These are only considerations from an outsiders point of view but I wish you both the best whatever you decide. :)
Life can be very confusing..haha.. don't feel alone on that one.
I like the way you think :)
Thank you very much ❤️
Thank you!