They call it terrible twos for a reason. 😉

I was always one for routines setting boundaries and diverting tantrums. With my first daughter I would nip bad behaviour in the bud, before it got worse, because I'd seen how it could only make things harder for myself down the line after watching my sister raise her boy on her own. Then number two came along and she was so much more placid and well behaved that when she fist started testing her boundaries I didn't respond, because I wasn't used to it with her. Thankfully I did realise and she responded well.

My eldest has recently had an ADHD diagnosis as an adult, which explains why she was such hard work, but apparently also why the boundaries and routine helped, so it never ended up being an issue for her as a child. We also ended up home schooling, which her psychiatrist has said was probably one of the best things I could have done for her.

The take home for me that all children are different and you can't judge yourself as a parent on the behavior of someone else's children. I’m sure boundaries and routine will help both of you, but renember that she is also her own unique person. Even my youngest is a fidget and would be doing head stands while I was reading to them, but always absorbed the story.

I hope your journey goes well.