#Shared-help ... creating a toolkit to support the ones you love.
Over the last decade or more the concept of #Self-help has grown in popularity and commercial value. There are so many books, articles YouTube videos and services to help you - the person struggling to change or move on from a situation.
But, what about the supporters?
I can confirm that at my practice it is incredibly rare for the person in a negative emotional state, the one suffering, to contact me and ask for help. More than likely, the person who asks for help is the one who is supporting a loved one going through emotional turmoil and struggling to break free from it.
This stark realisation shows me that there is more we need to do; to help "the supporter" of a loved one stuck in a cycle of suffering. We need to develop "shared-help" techniques; a toolkit, to be more effective and protect ourselves at the same time.
When did you complete your training in helping others?
It may come as no surprise to accept that on the whole, most of us are free from any formal training to support the negative emotional state of another.
We maybe a great friend, a superb listener and even advice giver or sign-poster to alternative professional service providers. But that isn't always enough - as a supporter we can often carry the burden of those we love, stuck in a negative flat-spin. The supporter, can become victim of the suffering, due to a lack of knowledge and know-how.
My aim is to find a cohort of supporters and service providers who together can create a simple, friendly yet powerful toolkit to arm all 'supporters' in the basic skills needed to make a difference to someone's suffering.
The Shared-help Concept - A Toolkit for Supporters
Remember - even the smallest things can create the biggest impacts ... the ripples always reach the edge!
"You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop." Rumi
Together we can create a toolkit to provide supporters with knowledge, tips and guidance on the words they can use, the tactics they can suggest and build the skills they need to effectively support another, whilst protecting their own mental state.
Please do not be a second victim to those you love who are suffering. Get in touch if you're feeling overwhelmed and lost for what else you can do for a loved one - if you feel your support is making little or no progress.
If you feel strongly that the current system and services are not working for your loved one then please also get in touch!
You are NOT alone!
If you can offer help to create a Shared-help toolkit please get in touch. We can then offer a variety of training channels (#Dlive, #steemit and workshops) to help make a difference in this growing area of need.
Together we can do more.
With absolute love and kindness, DJ xx
Since half of my friends think I'm crazy I am going to re-steem this, they may need this tool kit in the future. The other half are already sure I am crazy.
Thanks @sultnpapper I really value your support, vote & resteem! DJ
Hey nice content!
I follow and voteup few 👌
we will keep in touch! happy to see you!
Thank you @headcorner I really value your support! Kindest DJ
It's something we often overlook, I love the concept of a toolkit for the caregiver as they have to be the strong ones at all times and forget to take care of themselves. And the scary part is what happens if they crumble Resteeming for sure!
Hi @lizelle great comment & thank you for reading! It’s hard watching the untrained do the jobs that the system fails to deliver & watching them crumble as victims of their own effort is heartbreaking.
I really value your support, thank you DJ
Hi @sultnpapper just checking in to see how things are going for you... well I hope. In this post you certainly hit home for me with one paragraph about when someone comes asking for help, that they are the one supporting another through emotional times.. I like you believe this to be the case. Thank you and take care @racykacy
Well thanks for checking in, but this post is one I just happened to have re-steemed for Dr. Zoe so I can't take credit for hitting anything home, it is all hers. But since you are here and liked it maybe direct a comment to her too. Since I know both of you the need for me to introduce seems appropriate, Racy, meet Dr. Z, Dr. Z meet Racy and while I am at it I want both of you to meet another good friend of mine from Cape Town , South Africa @lizelle, and @lizelle meet both Dr. Z and Racy.
I think that covers the introductions.
Now back to me, I have been pretty busy with work and keeping up with the daily dose. Plus the weather has started to break here and I have a lot of outside projects around the place that have to be tended too so the weekends are extremely busy. Got to run now, check you soon.
Great to hear you are well @sultnpapper and keeping busy. I thought the saying went "a WOMAN'S work is never done " not the case anymore after reading this. P.S. Pleased to meet you @lizelle from Cape Town and thank you Dr. Zoe for this well written interesting post. Take care @racykacy
Hi there @racykacy so pleased to read hour comment, thank you! Going to hop over to your profile now and take a look for mutual support, kindest DJ
Thank you @zoedj and take care. I hope to spot some of your future posts as I don't get notifications so I tend to miss a lot. Regardless I will keep and eye out. @racykacy
Thanks so much @racykacy I hope you do - I've had some time working away so back to here to do what I need to do and reach those who need it now ... thanks for your support!
Your welcome @racykacy
Pleased to meet you @racykacy, but mr Papper, I am actually from Durban, that lovely lady @simplylizelle is from Cape Town :) Excellent post by dr Zoe, sad not more people are reading it but as you said, tags are vitally important, partake in writing, food & photography contests etc etc as well plus becoming part of one of the groups here on steemit as well. Please persist dr Zoe, would love to read more!
Hi @lizelle I read and loved your posts last night so serendipatious one night say. I look forward to sharing and collaborating with you more - thank you too for your helpful tips! Let’s see what the year brings that I have committed to proactively “stick with it” kindest DJ
Thank you @zoedj, lovely word that - serendipitous! I also look forward to reading more of your posts, & I do blog about other subjects besides cooking ;) Have a great weekend!
Yes, you are from Durban, so how did you like me tricking you into putting our lovely friend into the mix? Actually, I just screwed it up, but you are more than aware that I can do that some times.
Hahaha mr Papper, so you tricked me or you got confused with the two Lizelle's again? Do hope we draw @simplylizelle into this conversation, sure she will enjoy both @zoedj & @racykacy's blogs!
You certainly have a way of bringing people together, don't you :):)
I had the right continent, at least, yes this time I confused the locations.
I know was just teasing:)
Pleased to meet you to @lizelle stay safe and well @racykacy
You are very kind with your time and support @sultnpapper thank you for the acknowledgement and intros! DJ
You are most welcome.