WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS?

Facebook and some other social media when asking about your relationship status, has the option "complicated". What makes a relationship complicated? Relationships involves the efforts and consciousness of two people. When a single person puts in all the effort, with little or no reciprocation from the other person, the relationship is bound to fail.

A complicated relationship is an Off/On relationship. If a relationship is too complicated to maintain, be careful because it will be too complicated to sustain. The lies, ego, secrets all makes a relationship complicated. Now, there Re different types of "Ships" that may seem like a relationSHIP but they are far from it. These includes but not limited to the following;

1. SituationSHIP

SituationSHIP feels like a relationship. Whenever you are together, the passion is high but whenever you are not together, the person becomes too busy to answer your calls or reply your chats. When they do, they make it seem like they are doing you a favor. They call you up and arrange for a meet up only when they need something from you. This leaves you confused about what you want out of this situation. Usually, the people that place you in a situationship usually meet up like 70% of your list but the 30% they do not meet are things that were supposed to be deal breakers for you. Some people stay in a toxic relationship even when they know deep down that there are so many issues and this relationship clearly has no future. They will always defend themselves with the popular saying, "the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know". This is frustrating because you are in an unhappy relationship. You are simply in a situationSHIP. A situationSHIP involves lots of sex and leaves only one person catching feelings. There is minimal communication and when you try to make a conversation, it turns out looking like an interrogation. Do not trick yourself into thinking that this will eventually lead to a concrete relationship. It is usually a waste of time, all for someone who doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Stop dating yourself.

2. FlirtationSHIP

This is an undefined relationship. You like each other and it is obvious to everybody. You enjoy each other's company and spend a lot of time chatting and communicating on phone but nobody has come out to define what it is you have yet you are not allowed to talk to the person of the opposite sex because your FlirtationSHIP partner will feel offended. In this type of "ship", the lady likes the guy but will always have tons of reasons while she cannot date him. The guy on the other hand acts like he is about to ask her out and use the attention he gets from her to make himself feel like a man, like "her" man but never officially asks her out. If in the future, one party decides to act like it is official, the other is quick to remind him/her Tha the relationship was never defined from day one.

3. SecretShip

This is a type of relationship where two people are obviously attracted to each other but one party prefers to keep it a secret. The communication is amazing and sex is fantastic but none of his friends knows you and none of her family members know you. In this "Ship", one of them holds back from other relationship opportunities in hope that this may actually become an official relationship in the future. This is a bad relationship. It is messy because even when the possibility of a relationship is no longer there, one or both of them ises the other as a standard for future relationships. This is a good example of the "side chick" or "side guy" type of relationship.

4. PredatorSHIP

In this form of relationship, one is completely dependent on the other for basic necessities such as housing, food, clothing, and even employment opportunities and immigration status. You are seen as the solution to every problem and that ability to proofer practical solution whenever it is needed is what the "ship" anchors on. Love is one sided. While the other is providing these needs because he loves and cares about the other or vice versa, the predator is just there waiting to call it a quit whenever the supply ends. The dependant party even becomes sometimes physical or emotionally abusive. There is unrequited love. The dependant treats the other party so badly, disrespects him but he still holds on hoping someday, his good deeds will make her eventually fall in love and reciprocate his feelings. This is a waste of time. Relationship should be all about give and take and not only "take".

The question is, which "ship" are you in?
Relationships are beautiful when it involves two people who defines what they have, loves each other genuinely, respects each other and treats each other how they deserve to be treated. Find that someone today and if you already have, congratulations.

Until I write again

Yours truly

@zizymena.