Firstly, do not apologize for the tags. I think it is wonderful that you are stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a chance! I just loved that you included us. I honestly squealed in delight.
Scott wanted us to start our answer to you with a link to today's dtube snap https://steemit.com/dtubesnap/@xcountytravelers/z1q1z5kk . He gives his answer there.
I wanted to address this as well, but with an example. I live in a state of fear many times throughout my day; especially when we travel. I do not know where this comes from because we have had nothing more than positive experiences on our travels. However, it is horrible for Scott because he has to try to convince me not to freak out and stay safely at home.
At one point on our trip in Taos, New Mexico, the time was getting late and we still had an hour drive through the curvy mountain road to get to our hotel for the night. However, Scott insisted we go to the ski lodge deep within the Carson National Forest . The road was steep, twisty, and unknown to us. I totally freaked out and cried all the way up the mountain to the ski lodge. My stomach was in knots and my head was swirling in fear, but I knew I had to do it; I had to drive up that mountain and prove to myself it was going to be okay.
Yes, we made it safely and we saw the most amazing place. If it would not have been for Scott encouraging me, I would never have seen this place and headed straight to the hotel allowing fear to win.
Fear often comes from the unknown and it is only by doing that the unknown disappears.
What do you think @youhavewings, @maquemali, @twodorks, @juliamulcahy, @anutu, @darrenfj, @Ravijojla, @priyanarc, @zen-art, @oneofsteem, @audreybits, @blind-spot, @earthkind, @saffisara, @monchhichi23, @eveningarts
Ren
when i was a child , accidentally i burnt myself and it was a horrible experience for me. Long time i was in fear of fire. Whenever i saw fire, i used to fear but i decided to step out from it .So make myself strong , make my mind strong and finally i am out . Well, i have fear in multiple things like height, sea-water, horror movies and many more because still now i think my mind is still not prepare to step out of these..
Fear is a psychological matter i believe. thx @xcountytravelers for tagging me here... and @jimmyoblog very very well written..
Fear is a huge factor in my life. However, i try to not let it dictate whe at i do.
@priyanarc
Good morning from Philly, USA! Thanks for your message.
In the Summer of 1973 (13 yrs old), I snuck in the rear exit of a movie theatre and sat in the front row to watch "The Exorcist." This movie scared me to the core of my being!
I still can recall riding my bicycle home, completely convinced the devil was "gonna get me." First of all, because I snuck into the theatre, but mostly...just because.
I didn't sleep for 3 nights! Every sound I heard -- the windows rattling in the breeze, or a lone car driving on the street -- had me frightened to tears. And I could tell no one!
Because of that experience, I no longer watch ANY horror flicks, ever!
Now gladly following you...
Peace and smiles
She is worth following.
Ren
I think fear is healthy and it is the best tool of a brave man!
Yes, great tool if used correctly.
Yes, I agree that fear can be a VERY important tool in life.
Thanks for your message. Now following you, and I will read a few of your recent posts.
Peace and smiles
Thank you :-)
It's good to have you in the house!
Thanks for the tag @xcountytravelers.
I love the question and write up @jimmyoblog so thank you for tagging @xcountytravelers so they could tag even more 😉
For me, everything is our thinking, there’s fast thinking that keeps us safe and is intuitive, like you said, it helps you when you need to act fast as there is REAL danger. It’s why a cat will jump if they see a cucumber on the floor, as they react to the possibility it might be a snake.
Then there’s your other mode of thinking, where False Evidence Appears Real and we create stories and scare ourselves. This again is to keep us safe as this type of fear keeps us in our comfort zone, and uses past experiences to keep us inside our own safe boundaries. However, this fear can work in two ways. It can stop us from growing or it can be our projection into new things. It all depends on what you do with it.
Phobias are fears that will often stand in the way of growth but with a new way of thinking they can become what I personally term, terror-excitement, where you get the energy to start moving.
Energy is at the heart of all emotions and can become stagnant and held in the body. You can, by a number of different approaches, work with your energy to move it and free it. I like your method, Love-based believing, because it works for you, and so very likely would work for many others, if not everyone.
I have made a study of the question you asked and so have learnt many methods, NLP, EFT, Matrix Reprogramming, active listening, coaching, aspects of spirituality and the 3 Principles.
From your chosen method I think you might like Matt Kahn’s YouTube channel.
And if not, oh well, I got to share some cat videos, so I’m good. 😉
@juliamulcahy
Hello and good morning!
Thanks so much for your perspective; I can't say I disagree with a single syllable!
Energy, Connectivity, Soul, Source, Alignment, Discernment, Authenticity...all of these terms come to mind as I ponder the results of "doing the work."
And in doing the work, my fear-based thinking dissipated into love-based believing. My system of living, being, doing is so much broader and deeper, now that the limits (socio-culturally introduced / embedded) have been removed.
I consider most of my fears to be of the healthy sort, although I continue to avoid horror flicks (see my reply to @priyanarc :-)
Now following you, which I expect will be fruitful and engaging.
Peace and smiles
Following you too, @jimmyoblog, you seem to know where you’re going but then again, if you’re following me, we might end up going round in circles. 😀❤️😀
Eyes wide open, fingers at the ready. We read, we learn, we write, we post.
This way, I believe we grow.
So, let's have at it!
Let’s have it, indeed.
I just love those videos. It always amaze me at how they react.
Ren
Hehehe, me too, apart from feeling for the poor terror stricken kitties 🐱 x
Hola Ren!
I so appreciate your message and post; you provide a perfect example of how fear can impact one's day, intimidate decision-making and churn up the physical body in not-so-healthy ways. I wonder if that's one of the major reasons that OTC stomach acid medicine is so popular (ya, commercials blame it on spicy foods & hot dogs, but...)
I'm also glad for your partner pushing you beyond "fear in the moment." Most times, in my experience, we survive unrealized fears and arrive into beauty, whether in nature (like Carson National Forest) or in internal peace.
Travel on!
Yeah, there are so many other stories, but this one was one with the best outcome. Fear would keep locked up in the house, but Scott pushes me to get out and live life outside my box. It is so appreciated because I have seen so many wonderful things.
Thanks for a great post topic. Can't wait to see more.
Ren