What you and your family are going through is a very, very hard time. My heart goes out to you and my prayers for acceptance and support. I got the phone call a few minutes ago. My best friend lost her grandmother at 3 p.m. today. She was very close to her, like a mother. The weight of grief is very hard on her and it will take time for her to absorb the loss. I'm very sad that your dad is passing and has had a long illness and the financial debt that you all find yourself in. You have my prayers.