I feel for you guys, I know exactly what it's like and from a woman's perspective, I know how your wife must feel. It will happen though if you make it happen, we live in a world where there are so many options available to us. I am a true advocate of adoption, and while it has its difficulties, raising biological children comes with all sorts of dynamics too. Having kids is hard, no matter how they came to you. Adoption is also not expensive like most people assume, if you work with the right social worker that is. If you ever have any questions or want to chat (your wife too), feel free to message me on Discord.