I have your exact feelings too. However, I have been involved in many different real-world feel-good projects that all led to the realization that "the road to hell is often paved with good intentions." Most things fail because little thought was put into how abusers will ruin it. Also, when one person's definition of good/bad tries to define an entire group, it will also fail. Centralized control is the real problem that breeds resentment, division and retaliation. Centralized control makes the masses feel like they are in kindergarten. I don't have all the answers, but I have been involved in many real-world experimental groups, which aimed to dissolve racism, hatred, and the like. Most of the groups that were formed with good-natured feelings, and openness, a kind of "future utopia world' quickly dissolved once violent criminals entered and took control over a certain segment of the population. A violent criminal who was also an anarchist began knifing people's tires and raped a woman. Then a psychotic girl split the group into two factions. Then the gang violence moved in. No basic rules were ever implemented in the beginning and no one dared to ban individuals. This led to the complete failure and dissolution of the group within less than a year.
Since then I have studied successful ecovillages and how they operate. The health of the group is valued over any newcomers. New members are allowed slowly in. I realize this is a stretch for steemit, but it's interesting to note that the members' voices are valued highly. There is no one person dictating such opinions. This leads to a healthy group because people's voices are valued.
When we have larger groups, that kind of consensus is not possible. Steemit is at a point that I think it would make sense for sub-communities to form. I think it is already....