I'm 26 years old and I do not have a girlfriend. Like almost everyone, I have complexes, the worst of them is my deathly pale face. No, I'm not a drug addict, I do not drink and do not smoke, just by nature I have pale skin.
When you look at my face, some beautiful girls frown or turn away, not hiding their disgust, which is extremely hurting my self-esteem. Tried to run in the morning, so that the face looked healthier, but with my height 175 and weight 63, I start to lose weight quickly. Yes, after jogging, the person is bursting with such health that the girls delay their view of it longer than necessary and no longer disgust, but on the contrary, we can see some admiration. All would be well, like the problem is settled, but as I mentioned earlier, I lose a lot of weight.
I ran though and not every day, but two in two, at a distance of 10-12 km. On other days, did a little exercise on strength, it's push-ups, pull-ups. For a short time, I became dry and skinny, I could lose weight to 54-55 kg, which I really did not like, and the girls tried not to look at my skinny biceps at all, so I neglected to run. In due course I have returned weight and now everything, as before. The problem has remained, but it is not the only one. On the street with the girls I'm not acquainted, in connection with this problem, so my main acquaintances are different chats and soc. network. But here I am a certain profane, I do not know women's psychology. With girls who are acquainted in this way, nothing good comes out. They constantly make me nervous, various tricks and tricks, for them it's a game, but I perceive it as some kind of stupidity and naivety.
There were also meetings, but not more than three. They just besy me, their hard and harmful characters. I'm afraid of this hassle in the future, so I stop talking. I had a fear in creating a family, this eternal explosion of the brain, I do not need it. Girls, women, why is it sometimes so hard for you to come to mutual understanding? I'm just tired of misunderstanding, it seems that it will always be. I come to this site quite often, I read stories, sometimes I leave comments. If I may, I will remain anonymous, as some know my nickname. Thanks for good advice.
Uhh, he really has a self-esteem and social anxiety problem...
It's nice that you share these stories with people, it might help to know that some things are not very uncommon.
I've actually posted about human life value yesterday, would love to hear your professional opinion about it. : )
Where are you getting these very candid stories from?
I work as a psychologist. And with the permission of my patients, I post their stories. There are many people in the world with similar stories and this can help people overcome difficulties.
Good luck with your work
Thank you
Okay, I was gonna say. This guy could really use a red pill. Seems like a very humble nice person, but only sees the shallow nature of others. Can be a blessing and a curse to only perceive the nature of others from their worst light.
Probably it's hard to miss the problems of other people
Yes, it's hard. But I feel great joy when it becomes easier for my patients and they can move on in life.
Always experienced problems herself. Only sometimes I told my girlfriends about my problems. A year ago I turned to a psychologist and he helped me a lot. The main thing is to find a good psychologist.