Attachments - the Genetics of Love and Friendship [Essay]

in #life8 years ago

Once the river of your mindset suddenly runs uphill and there's no way back - to traditional thinking, conventions and norms. The flow of my mindset changed once I returned to my mother-town after almost two months spent in other cities - and I want to share with you some thoughts that basically reversed my understanding of love and friendship. I hope you'll prove me the opposite - I'll be thankful.

The last few months have taught me a very wise but sorrow lesson. There're no guarantees that if you have something now you'll have it tomorrow. That's about everything: people, friends, money, property, possessions. People change, money devaluate, possessions get lost or damaged. The only thing that you have is your personality - your only investment - all the other stuff is temporary. 

Fake words, fake reactions. Even if people like you they will lie not to hurt you - it they don't like you they'll lie for another reason.
We'll keep in touch! - Lie
We'll definitely meet again - Lie
I need you - Lie
We'll be friends and support each other even if we can't meet anymore - Lie
The person is needed as far as it's convenient for both sides. When it becomes inconvenient the relations crush.


Source: art by Anton Semenov

One needs support and the other doesn't want to be alone - they call it friendship
They like to discuss cars and watch movies together (that's not as awkward as to go to the cinema alone) - they call it love
One needs a clever person to speak to while the other is eager to listen - they call it brotherhood.


Source: art by Anton Semenov

We call convenience with a very sophisticated word - relations - but never think about what really ties us to other people. Dependence? Convenience?

I don't want to state that there's no love or no friendship. Still not everything we call these two is really something light and nice. Few people have had a wonderful chance to experience either love or friendship and I don't belong to these lucky ones.

Be faithful to yourself,
Anastasia