When you have expanded your definition of self to include everyone else, your own self love will invariably manifest as compassion for others.
In order to love others, try loving yourself.
To love yourself, practice forgiveness, suspend judgment, be grateful.
Who are you? Are you John Smith, college graduate, superior intellectual with a neurotic need for approval?
Thankfully, no, you are not defined by your thoughts, actions or social status; you are actually that which exists in all things at all times.