Typically, whether one realizes it or not, like attracts like. Many people marry people who closest reflect their parents' marriage/adult relationships without realizing it.
This helps explain why 'sane' people oftentimes seem like magnets to insanity in relationships. Believe it or not, a whole lot of cra' goes on behind closed doors; thus, a lot of little children grow up modeling how their parents act/what they tolerate in relationship.
The divorce rate is high; because, a lot of times people have to accept the horrific mistake they made. And, if they're super blessed, God will grace them with a second chance to get it right.
And millions do go on to enjoy a healthy relationship; but sadly, some don't learn, and seven marriages later, find themselves deeper in the same doo/just different faces.
Lastly, food for thought far more females are born than males…last check 12:1, making it quite obvious that women who practice monogamy shouldn’t be presumptuous about a life as a wife...jmho...
Peace.
Not always. Also opposit personalities can attract each other.
Some people want to copy exactly the life of their parents.
Some people are eager to do something totally different, make the opposit than their parents.
In the book
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
Harville Hendrix
Has a theory that we want to play the same games our parents played, to heal our wounds. We choose relationship with persons which have the same errors our parents have.
Yes, so truth…people who seek their opposite are attempting to fulfill something within themselves they lack; i.e. an introvert with low self-esteem might like the confident extrovert who keeps ‘the party going’…
Again, very true…in an effort to show parents how to do it the right way…(healing) they end up in a similar disaster as the parents…thus…a recipe for divorce.
Apologies for the delayed reply...low on RBCs...;+)
Peace.